The Work of Byron Katie with Grace
question your thinking, wake up to a kinder life
When I was a kid, I felt ashamed and embarrassed to feel just about anything.
Ecstasy and attraction (wanting) something, anger or fury, sadness or self-pity.
The shame of feeling these, and wanting to cover up that I felt them, I took with me into adulthood.
The problem is, if you feel ashamed to feel, you have a MAJOR BLOCKADE going on with reality.
Because you are a feeling person.
Watch here to find out how to allow all feelings to be present and come into the light.
My 100th Podcast Episode. Peace Talk is a short (less than 10 minutes) talk about inner peace, in every situation. Thanks for listening. Keep writing with your topics and questions, I love hearing from you.
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thank you everyone for sharing your stressful thoughts, for they are mine, too, it turns out
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“This is a LOT of work”said the handsome young man sitting on my couch.
Our session had just come to an end, after going into overtime.
He said it with a sigh and a slightly dejected sense of disappointment in his voice.
Like….dang it.
I was hoping for a change of heart after this.
Immediately, I thought about how I could have used the session more productively by saying a little more about The Work in the first place, by explaining it better (not true).
What I had not known was he knew just about nothing about The Work, but was still somehow drawn to come see me.
He knew I once had a food thing of some kind.
He had a drinking and smoking thing.
I could see the pack of Camel Straights in his shirt pocket, the kind I used to smoke myself so many years ago.
He wanted it to be over.
He wanted it to be a thing that was No Longer A Thing.
Like that old terrible relationship you remember you once had, and it was violent and troubling, and now it’s been 20 years, or 2 years, and you actually kind of smile when you think of that person.
Addictive compulsive behavior is like this.
It’s so painful, so full of suffering and angst and self-hatred, that anyone experiencing even a little tiny bit of trancing into something addictive, whether a substance or a behavior, would think “this has to stop” when you snap out of the trance.
It doesn’t just stop though, right?
Nope.
Not if you want to skip over the part in which you discover what you’re thinking, believing and feeling that causes the unrest in the first place, that fuels the reaching for the thing that will help you forget awhile about your thoughts.
It also won’t stop if you persistently think you are alone AND you should be able to figure this out by yourself.
It won’t stop if you think you should pull it together and feel gratitude for how much you have (whats-wrong-with-you-anyway).
And it won’t stop if you HATE uncomfortable feelings, or feelings of terror and failure and vulnerability.
Because those feelings are what often happen right before you reach for the thing, so you’ll have to be with them.
This sweet man had emailed me before our first session and asked if he should fill out any forms beforehand, to save time, or do anything to prepare.
I sent him a Judge Your Neighbor worksheet and said he could spend time filling it out and to pick something other than himself.
Guess what he said as he sat down on my couch to begin the session?
“I couldn’t find anyone at all in my life I have trouble with, thank God. I have such an amazing life. I have so many people I love and who love me. I have it pretty good.”
Oh boy, here it comes I thought….
“It is me I have a problem with. Just me. So I answered the questions on this sheet about myself.”
So now today, instead of talking about how I found it so much easier to do The Work on the world, which turned out to Be Me anyway, and give you a suggestion on Not Doing It On Yourself…..
…..I’m going to do my own work.
Which is really the quickest, easiest, most productive, direct way.
And yes, it’s called The Work because it appears to require some time and attention and care.
But I really have no choice, because it’s either do this, or fuss internally and get irritated.
Maybe I stay irritated, maybe I fuss, but at least one way there’s a chance of rain.
Without questioning my thoughts….it’s a drought and maybe rain comes eventually, but who knows.
I’m in a hurry.
So here we go.
People should stop doing The Work on themselves!!
They should stop being so harsh and critical of themselves. They should join the human race and be normal mediocre humans. They shouldn’t think they owe a debt or are extra privileged and guilty, they shouldn’t try so hard, they should relax and enjoy this amazing life while they’re here.
If they’re addicted and they don’t want to be, they should f*%&ing stop using the thing they’re addicted to and WRITE DOWN THEIR THOUGHTS when they think “I have to smoke”.
They should understand that their thoughts and feelings are driving them crazy, not the substance. They should stop being so frightened, so discouraged, and so hard on themselves.
Let’s do The Work.
These people should stop insisting on doing The Work on themselves.
Is that true?
No.
How do I know?
It’s not happening.
Plus, I’ve watched concepts I’ve had about ME float through my consciousness, and been aware of questioning them, and how powerful it’s been.
I should have explained the process of self-inquiry using The Work much better to that new client…..is that true?
No. I didn’t.
How do I react when I believe people should stop doing The Work on themselves?
Irritated. Wanting to explain. Thinking that explanations would solve the problem.
Remembering my own life when I thought all it would take to be happy was me being different, doing therapy, me being strong, disciplined, full of willpower, determined, intentional, driven, clear.
With the thought, pictures of another friend pass through my mind.
A friend very, very determined to become enlightened.
I feel angry at her effort and her pushing, her bossy ways, her spouting off her opinions about other people and who is awake or not awake (ugh).
That same friend, I realize suddenly, sees herself in the same way this young man sees himself.
Not There Yet.
“I just need someone to kick my ass…” he said.
Really?
Pause.
Deep breath.
I got a little worked up there for a minute, reacting to the thought “people should stop doing The Work on themselves.”
So who would I be without the thought?
Without any thought that they should be any different than they are, that they should think any differently about themselves, or stop being so harsh and critical and controlling.
Without the thought they should stop thinking they need their ass to be kicked?
What would that feel like, as I sit picturing them in this moment?
I see myself over there, in their shoes.
I see someone with a huge enormous heart, so big they don’t want to judge others or hurt others.
I see someone full of passion, someone wanting to give to the world, someone understandably tired of their own fears, worries, doubts and false stories.
I think of this young man, and my friend, and sense their discouragement.
I feel compassion without the belief they should be any different than they are, including self-critical.
I feel lightness, too.
If I just got here from another planet, without any thought that these humans should be less critical of themselves….
….I would notice that’s not reality here.
Without these thoughts….
….I’d facilitate this man on his belief that he just needs to get organized.
I turn it around: people should keep doing The Work on themselves.
I should not be so harsh and critical of them, or of me. I should join them, being a normal mediocre human rather than a know-it-all.
They should think they owe, and I owe them and others and myself as well. I should keep trying hard, and so should my friend. I should relax and enjoy this amazing life, and these amazing people who are so brilliant, while they’re here.
“The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is, is what we want…….There is only one mind, and people are going to tell us what we haven’t dealt with yet in their own thinking.” ~ Byron Katie
People are so dear, so adorable.
Aren’t we amazing, aren’t we all incredible in how sincerely we desire to be the best version of ourselves possible?
And I love and appreciate, bowing to the ground in gratitude, that this improvement is not all up to me.
Thank God, Thank God.
Much love, Grace
When you’re about to gather with other people for a meal….
….let’s say Thanksgiving, as a random example….
….before the event actually happens what do you notice in that head of yours, as you feel some anxiety, worry, sadness, wonder, confusion?
Any stressful feeling at all….
….what’s the thought behind it?
What’s the SHOULD or SHOULD NOT behind the feeling?
When you spend some time with that, here’s what you might notice.
(It’s really interesting, even moving and beautiful).
Have you ever stopped to notice, that every single time you reach towards something when you feel uncomfortable….
….food, drink, smoke, internet, activity-you-promised-not-to-do….
….you’re trying to feel OK.
But you don’t feel OK.
You’re trying to.
So you put something in your mouth and eat it, and you forget about how you weren’t feeling OK for awhile.
You move on.
Other stuff happens.
Now, you’re drunk, or stuffed, or exhausted, or your money is gone, or you feel guilty, or you feel horrible pain.
That thing you didn’t feel OK about is long gone.
Now, you have worse problems you have to attend to, and work on, and self-hate to deal with on top.
What if….when you got the first inkling of Not-OK about anything, you didn’t try to get away from it or fix it or do something about it?
Believe me, I know it’s weird.
It’s not what is usually offered, or suggested, or what your mind will chatter away about with many possible ideas to solve the problem.
Not solving the problem is VERY strange for the mind.
But try it on. What if you didn’t try to be OK?
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Stop Trying to be OK….see what happens
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Peace,
Grace
I received a powerful question the other day about ending eating arguments.
These would be those ones inside your own head.
Eat it! Don’t eat it! I’ll eat it! You shouldn’t eat it! Stop eating it! You ate it! You’re wrong! This sucks! You’re fat! You’ll GET fat! You’ll die of a disease! I can’t! I can! I need more! I need less! Too much! Not enough!
Those eating wars, fights, arguments, concerns, worries that happen on the inside of you.
The person asked me….
….”If I’ve tried everything, and I mean EVERYTHING under the sun known to humankind, to stop being out of balance with eating, food, my weight, my obsessive thoughts….
….what could I possibly have missed?
Why would I want to take any of your programs?”
She went on to tell me she is 52 years old, and spent a lifetime working on this issue.
She began at age 8 when her mom and a doctor put her on a diet (taking a pill and restricting her food).
Like so many of us smart, educated, well-read people, she also knew practically enough to have a degree in nutritional science (no offense to those who actually have it, I know it’s expert work).
She had been to Overeater’s Anonymous and Weight Watchers, and Jenny Craig, and Fat Camps, and done low carb and raw diet (she actually enjoyed it quite a bit, but went off it one day).
She had studied the 12 steps deeply enough to attend AA meetings without feeling like an outsider even though she didn’t think of herself as an alcoholic. She could relate to “addict”.
She had also engaged in therapy with someone she trusted, to study her own emotional experience around eating.
But she still ate too much, and ate the “wrong” things.
She always failed.
What else was there left to do?
She asked me.
So.
What’s my honest answer?
Just Stop…..and get mega tons of support as you do it.
Stop trying to know, or find the answer, or do it all alone….and make THAT a practice in itself.
Then I shared with her a turning point for me that occurred with two things colliding together around the same time.
I know these are two pretty huge and gigantic, profound stands.
But they aren’t really.
The short versions could look like this:
Notice.
There is no plan for what the outcome is, in either one of these energies.
No set idea for which way it will go.
No ideal weight, no special result, no serious rules to follow.
Except:
To get to that inner place of what I like to call Open Hands (no fighting) feels very hard.
At least it appears to be hard.
It appears to require some kind of intention, or ability to achieve it.
But is that true?
Are you sure?
Are you sure you need to find these things, and you’ve lost them? Or you came into this world with them missing?
Are you sure you’ve tried absolutely everything, and it’s completely hopeless?
Because I felt that way hundreds of times, as I look back on my experience of raging eating pain…..
…..but I’m still here.
I’m not only here, I’m writing about healing from eating. I’m living in my 25th year since the last binge-eating episode. I am not destroying anything with eating, or trying to destroy or change something.
My life, however, looks very normal and not that exciting or unusual, when it comes to food and eating.
For example, the other day, I felt like eating ice cream and it was pretty late at night.
We had some kind of chocolate chip flavor in our freezer. I took a bite after dishing it out in a pretty little crystal bowl.
I tasted it.
Not that good.
I opened up the fridge and found chocolate syrup in a container on the door, I didn’t even know we had it in there.
I put it on the ice cream, remembering childhood days of this same canned syrup and ice cream and peanut butter.
But it still didn’t taste that great.
So I ate another bite, as if checking, but then rinsed it into the sink.
Slowly.
It wasn’t a sudden smack of “NO! I won’t! OMG!”
It was just….oh. Ha ha.
Almost like a little mini attempt for something, then discovery of the truth.
It’s not even good. I don’t like the taste in my mouth. Maybe I like the texture and the coolness and gooey-ness, but not the actual taste.
There was no willpower or controlling the ice cream necessary.
I realized I was quite thirsty, and very tired.
What I really wanted, was to drink a big huge glass of water, put away the project I had been working on, and go to sleep.
What I really wanted was to feel the absolute quiet of this moment, at 11:00 at night, at the end of a huge day with many clients and creativity and plans for an upcoming retreat on December 12th.
What I really knew was true, was that nothing was required, and I could have what I wanted instantly….now.
Silence.
Rest.
So how do we do it?
What would that even look like, in a program of study like Eating Peace?
What it looks like is practicing together, which is amazing, and enlightening, and supportive.
Just like people in the medical field practice first aid, or emergency procedures, by repeatedly having fire drills and role-playing.
Rehearsing.
When we’re joined in a group together we practice:
I find, when gathered with one or more people other than myself who are intent upon understanding the joy of silence, of knowing the mystery of oneself (like on a meditation retreat)….
….then I can return to the “regular” world of life and I’m more aware than ever of the silence and peace in doing the laundry, working with others, typing, answering phone calls, shopping at the grocery store, playing music, picking up kids from school.
Or eating.
That’s what Eating Peace is all about.
It’s really Thinking Peace, Feeling Peace, Living Peace.
I know….we aren’t always in the middle of whatever this idea of pure “peace” actually looks like, right?
(Except we are).
So we’re making friends with every feeling, every thought, every encounter we have that doesn’t seem friendly and peaceful.
The ones where food becomes an enemy, or our own minds become our foes.
We’re practicing the feelings of safety, the thoughts of openness, the activities of gentleness and love, the awareness of feeling powerful and clear.
We’re wondering and practicing and rehearsing and feeling what it might be like to be people who are capable of landing and being at peace.
Even with eating.
Because we are capable of it.
Not all of us realize it yet.
We get to really see clearly what the barriers are to peace in our heads, the blocks to freely acting on our own behalf, or to opening up to the help from the universe on this topic.
I do not know how long it will take for anyone to truly discover eating peace.
But what I do know, is that anyone can.
I created Eating Peace as a 3 month program (and then a 3 day retreat as well) to support people who want to investigate eating wars once and for all, and see what’s happening internally that makes eating so troubling.
How do we end eating arguments?
You stop believing your thoughts, and your feelings that drive you to be weird with food.
How do we do that?
Love yourself enough to take a look at what is.
Stop eating out of emotions, feelings, desperation, anger, or sadness.
Share, be honest, tell the truth, slow down.
Amazingly…..it works.
Next week, we begin the very thorough Eating Peace Online program again.
As always, it’s updated and improved (how could it not be updated, as life continues to unfold).
It’s my deepest intention to inspire both myself and you as we remember how to return to experience peace with food.
If you’re wondering how the program actually works, here are the basics:
Tuesdays are Live Presentation Days. You listen, you watch a slide show I’ve put together on all the ways I’ve discovered to interrupt the pattern of thinking and feeling that leads to eating out of balance.
Presentations are 9-10:30 am Pacific Time, and you can just as easily watch the recording. If you participate live, there is no talking-you do it all via your computer and write to me during the live 90 minutes to share your responses, discoveries and feedback. You can ask questions, too.
Wednesdays are inquiry days. We do The Work of Byron Katie, a magnificent way to clearly identify the weird things we’ve learned about the religion of eating, and we dissolve these beliefs through questioning them.
Wednesday inquiry sessions are also 9-10:30 am Pacific Time. For these sessions, you CAN talk if you like (I love it if you do) but you can also listen without speaking.
The exact dates of this exploration of the world of eating are below.
We move through four powerful modules: Thoughts, Feelings, Body, Spirit.
Three sessions for every module, three weeks for every module.
Twelve weeks in total. It’s more than three whole months of support, learning, sharing, watching.
You’ll have exercises and practices that are fun, fascinating and full of curiosity as you live your days noticing and accessing your imagination around eating, food and your body image.
You can do them all, or not. Your choice.
You’ll also be invited to Stop.
Stop overeating, stop undereating, stop believing your thinking (question it instead), stop trying to change your feelings into something better all the time.
If you falter or fail, you’ll still be loved, included, accepted and congratulated for coming back. The only requirement for participating is your desire to participate, your desire for eating peace.
I’m sending out this email today because I realized something the other day, when the wonderful woman asked me why she should sign up for Eating Peace?
I have not shared what it’s really all about.
So now I’m sharing with you, so you get the opportunity at least to decide if you want to investigate in a deeper, more profound way than perhaps you ever have before, and to see what it’s like if you Just Stop.
(No matter how much that freaks you out).
If you don’t stop, you’re still welcome.
I’m in Seattle and I can’t keep you from eating, or not eating, but I can offer you the stepping stones through the darks woods, and what I found worked most beautifully.
Module One: Thinking. (We start with the mind).
ALWAYS 9-10:30 am Pacific Time (check your time zone HERE).
Module Two: Feelings (the power of feeling bad, or good)
Even if you do NOT join this program, or any future program, you can begin to watch, take in, notice when you do NOT want to stop and when you do NOT want to share (and keep secrets).
You can try, just a wee little bit, to turn this around.
You can do it.
You have what it takes.
To sign up for the entire 12 week journey, including your choice between one of two Eating Peace in-person retreats (optional) then please click HERE.
“The real thing that we renounce is the tenacious hope that we could be saved from being who we are. Renunciation is a teaching to inspire us to investigate what’s happening every time we grab something because we can’t stand to face what’s coming.” ~ Pema Chodron
I’m here to help inspire you to investigate, and share with you how I do it.
Join me, let’s do it together.
And by the way, anyone who joins, gets access for life. Yes.
Grace, you have a REMARKABLE ability to embrace anything that comes into our Work, and weave it in. I love your light-hearted but serious style, and that you can tell your own stories. Looking back at what I wanted to get out of the program, I can say that I got a lot more than I imagined. Thanks, so much. ~ Florida
Peace, Grace
P.S. This is probably the only time this year I will teach this 3 month course. There’s something amazing about doing it over the holiday season, no matter what your practice or religion.
Sign up here.
Recently someone wrote to share a stressful thought she has that I’ve heard before, in every variation possible.
I’m afraid I will fail. I already failed many times. I can’t seem to succeed. I will regret the outcome, later, in the future because it won’t be a success.
Being a human being, you’ve probably noticed a thought pattern like this, as your mind watches the memory of what you’ve been like, and then imagines what’s possible for you in the future, based on what you’ve been like so far.
That same mind will compare the failing you, to the possibly successful you, and see a gap.
Then it will say to you…..yep. See!
Something’s missing. You’re obviously not capable of doing this on your own. You need help.
A LOT of help.
Notice how stressful this is, to think you can’t do it, you won’t make it, you’ll not succeed, you can’t get there, you’ve screwed up many times already and failed over and over again.
Super stressful, discouraging, frightening, sad.
Here I share a little mantra I learned that made a big difference for me, a way to interrupt the pattern of reaching for unneeded food (or uncomfortable thoughts).
Peace,
Grace
You may have heard the rumor, and it’s true.
I’m doing three webinars in 4 days on the journey into peace with eating.
The first one is Sunday, November 8th. 8:30 – 10:00 am. You can also get the chance to attend Tuesday, November 10th at 9:00 am AND Wednesday, November 11th at 9:00 am.
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Some people have told me, what I share applies to all addictive thinking (not just food) and I get it.
It’s pretty true.
The process of becoming peaceful within starts with looking at the inner disturbance, but it doesn’t really matter what the disturbance actually is or how it looks when acted out.
I happen to have years of experience both in my own journey, and working with others, to end the battle with eating…..
…..but humans do nutty and extreme behavior with just about anything.
My study of this for several decades has given me some insight on my own recovery, and how others enter eating peace as well.
But it’s really about ending the addiction to fearful thinking.
I know not everyone has eating woes (which is why I’m sending this note today to everyone, including the daily Grace Note family of readers, not just eaters).
Fearful thinking is quite incredible to consider dropping.
When you feel like you have to DO something (eat, drink, smoke, check your emails, stay on facebook, game, over-exercise, read, fix yourself)….
….are you afraid of what would happen if you didn’t ACT?
What’s the worst that could happen if you hold still?
Nooooo!!!!
When I first went on a meditation retreat I thought I was being tortured by 1000 tiny ants hammering on my head and inside my skin about 3/4s of the time.
I woke up every night at 2:30 or 3:00 am.
I was on a wooded wild mountaintop, with distant views of the Pacific ocean very far away.
At night, there were no lights, and lemme tell you, not one view.
I was sharing a room with a whole line-up of women all on cots, all sleeping. I would disturb them if I turned on any lights.
I was trapped!!! It was sheer torture!!!
I joke around, but we all know what was really disturbing me was not the silence, the stillness, or the lack of entertainment.
It was me facing my own inner life.
My thoughts, my feelings, my awareness of the world.
It wasn’t exactly….good.
Who would you be without your beliefs about the dangers of life, or the dangers of this world, or the dangers of eating compulsively, or the dangers of not eating compulsively?
Who would you be without your escape behavior?
Who would you be if you took a very deep breath, and paused, and noticed your body and your environment?
You might say: I don’t know.
But not knowing feels somehow much better than KNOWING you are totally in danger, or that you’re a bad person (and so are others) or that this world is somehow threatening.
So even though I don’t have all the answers, that’s for sure, I do notice something remarkable.
It’s OK to not know.
Right now, I’m entirely safe and quiet and peaceful, even while I’m typing these words.
You probably are too, if you’re reading this note.
Who might you be without the belief you’re in danger, or in trouble, or something’s wrong with you, or you’re very small and unworthy?
I keep discovering that who I’d be is Not Acting Violent anymore with my eating, or anything else.
I keep working on my thoughts, and my feelings, and everything else falls into place with balance.
“You cannot be nonviolent if there is any part of yourself that you are in opposition to. You are not truly serving if there is any part of yourself to which you will not extend compassion. Your love will always be conditional as long as you are excluding any part of yourself from it. Suffering cannot be healed through self-hate. Only through compassionate acceptance can suffering be healed. If we accept, if we open ourselves, life will transform us.” ~ Cheri Huber in There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Whatever your addictive thing is, even if it’s telling your troubling story about the world, you can slowly, slowly unravel the knots that bind you.
We’re doing it together.
Question your thinking, change your actions (eating, or anything).
You really can.
Much love, Grace
P.S. Eating Peace Online: Read about this awesome program I put my heart and soul into. This 12 Week Immersion addresses emotional eating and ending the suffering around obsessive thinking when it comes to food.
We start November 17th. Join now (before 11/10) for the huge 30% discount. Come to the webinar and receive a special surprise bonus.
Webinar on Sunday, November 8th. 8:30 – 10:00 am. Share this email with others who may be seeking peace with eating. Learn six jewels to carry with you on the journey to peaceful eating.
(Also, two more webinars on Tuesday and Wednesday morning Nov. 10th and 11th both at 9:00 am. Open to everyone. I’ll be sure to send out news on how to join—put it on your calendar now).
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The journey to Eating Peace feels like a long one, if you’ve experienced eating angst over and over again, weight up and down, discouragement, failure, or repeated attempts to get this handled.
Everyone has a right to eating with peace, though.
Everyone has the absolute capacity for eating peace.
There are six beautiful jewels to use, like provisions for your journey, that support your freedom in every way.
Understanding each one, and how to use it well, is very important if you want an easier, simpler, more direct route from war to peace.
Here are the jewels I’m talking about:
Now, I know these are big generalized words that sound nice, but they kind of mean nothing unless I can explain more about how they’ve worked for me and what I mean.
Today I touch on these six jewels in this short video.
I don’t fully explain them all, it’s true.
But maybe you’ll begin to wonder about where you aren’t accepting, or what you don’t allow, just because I said the words “Acceptance”and “Allowing”.
Maybe you’ll consider what you might be thinking that causes stress, or fear, or lack of love, or loneliness…..which in turn causes eating to be off balance.
You might wonder about questioning all the things you think. You might open up to the idea that you don’t really know what’s true.
Even thoughts like “I shouldn’t eat after 6 pm” or “I have to push myself to exercise” or “there is something wrong with me.”
You might realize with the words “Doing Nothing” that you’re always thinking about what you should do.
You can hardly slow down, and it’s difficult to imagine doing nothing…..including Not Eating when you aren’t hungry, or starving yourself when you are.
Maybe you’ll get the sense of adding more Being to your life. Being who you really are. Relaxing, enjoying yourself as a human, not always trying to self-improve.
I have found, when I feel peace, I receive exactly what I need (no more, no less).
I am not hungry emotionally, I am not upset with myself for feeling a feeling.
I am faulty and imperfect and it’s funny instead of dreadful.
I hope you’ll join me for more in-depth conversation and teaching about these jewels that help so much to support peace within, and with eating.
When you think peacefully, with willingness and openness….
….not denying any difficult feeling, and not being against it either….
….then you will eat peacefully, too.
Let me know what your biggest questions are about eating.
What are you concerns, the areas you experience war, the places you feel the worst about eating?
Send me your questions by hitting reply, or by leaving a comment below the video on youtube.
I can’t wait to work with the wonderful group gathering to learn these principles and take a 3 month adventure together, for greater understanding and peaceful eating. Your questions, even if you aren’t joining right now, help me to prepare.
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Eating Peace: It’s your birthright to eat peacefully
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Peace,
Grace
P.S. Eating Peace Online: 12 Week Immersion to address emotional eating and move from war to peace. We start November 17th. Join before November 11th for the huge 30% discount.
Please join me for a free webinar on Sunday, November 8th. Share this email with others who may be seeking peace with eating. I suffered horribly, and now I’m free and here to help others end the battle with eating and troubled thinking.
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It can feel so depressing when you look at where you’d prefer to be with eating (at peace) and you’re incessantly not there (at war).
Watch my video to see the two areas of focus you’ll need to spend time with in order to understand your eating experience….
….thoughts and feelings.
It’s the only way this whole thing gets resolved for good.
You can focus on how you act, what you want to have, but without making peace with thoughts and feelings, the war-like feeling will always return.
Thoughts are very speedy, feelings are very messy and chaotic.
You can be with them anyway.
The surprise is that you don’t need anything more than this. You don’t need to know how to change your thoughts or feelings.
As long as you spend time with them, see them, give them some attention…..
…..you’ll be on your way to peaceful eating.
Peace,
Grace
P.S. Free webinar on November 8th at 8:30 am. This will be different than any webinar I’ve done so far. I’ll share how to walk the path through the dark woods from eating war to peace: Join Eating Peace Webinar. I’ll also share all the details at the end for those of you interested in joining Eating Peace Online: 12 Week Immersion starting November 17th.
It’s not breaking news that feelings of anger and fear fuel compulsive or obsessive behavior with food (or other substances).
But maybe you haven’t realized what you actually believe about feeling angry, or feeling afraid.
If you want to destroy, crush, consume, hide, repress or make anger and fear invisible….
….and never feel them again….
….then you’ll keep eating (or starving yourself).
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Eating Peace: Trying NOT to change your anger or fear will help you and heal you
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