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Two stories to question to solidly begin the healing journey to eating peace

Often when people come to do The Work on eating issues or weight troubles, they say they aren’t sure what they’re thinking or believing….so it’s too hard to do The Work.
The first step in doing The Work of Byron Katie, after all, is identifying what you’re thinking, so that you can question it.
They have some wisdom in this noticing.
It seems like all there is, is a swirl of emotion, agony, failure and guilt for having this weird off-balance wild eating thing that goes on.
There’s planning on how to control it (diets) and enduring self-hatred, anger, even rage, and despair.
The feelings are so big, even just in thinking or telling the story of eating, weight gain, weight loss, struggles with certain foods….it can feel like a nightmare.
What the heck is going on here?
Well…it seems complicated. 
So many experts have multitudes of philosophies about what’s necessary to heal this predicament of over-eating or under-eating or terrorizing ourselves with food or our belief that we have imperfect bodies.
I’ve noticed two stories, that really relate to this statement that people make over and over; “I don’t know what I’m thinking, I just feel terrible”. (I don’t know what I’m thinking, I just know I want to eat, eat, eat….and then I feel horrible about myself). 
Here’s what these stories are.
See if you ever think they’re true, or not:
1) This eating/compulsion issue is not a problem in the mind, it’s about food, eating and the body and getting these ‘right’. 
 
2) This eating/compulsion issue is about problems with difficult emotions; if I didn’t react so big, I wouldn’t eat.
 
The thing about these two stories is they have some truth in them…but the mind starts problem-solving and drawing conclusions on how to work with these stories in stressful ways, that require diets, control, willpower, and lots of planning and forecasting.
I don’t know about you, but the last thing I needed when it came to eating was more planning, controlling, dieting, manipulating and managing food and eating or my feelings or trying to make my feelings smaller.
What I desperately wanted and had a vision for, was to feel like I did when I was a little kid: carefree about eating.
I know, I know.
Some of you can’t remember ever feeling carefree about food and eating. But when you were born, I think you were born with all the raw material needed for balance with food.
But no wonder we feel so bad, and we’re not even sure what we’re thinking and believing!
It’s a tangle in there!
The first story, that this problem resides within the body and within eating behavior or food itself and not the mind….well, that’s maybe partially accurate.
But what happens with the awareness of this story?
The mind stamps the culprit as “guilty”!
The blame lies in the behavior, the food, the body.
So let’s punish, control, structure and give rules for what’s Allowed and Not Allowed to the human so they know how to behave. We’ll fix this problem!
That can work if the rules are followed. Sort of.
Except. The rules aren’t followed sometimes (or maybe a lot of the time).
Plus, what if you want to live freely without dictatorship?
What if want to learn how to naturally reside in peace and kindness with food, eating and the body?
What if you want the attitude you carry to be genuinely joyful and guilt-free when it comes to eating….and wake up to a new way of life in relation to having a body (one that needs to eat in order to live)?
What I learned about my own crazed eating was that it was in my mind that things went crazy first.
I began to think very stressful thoughts about acceptance, rejection, perfection, anger, right bodies, wrong bodies, weight, trauma, worry, control and fear.
I began to observe other peoples’ terror of fatness, and scare myself with the same belief.
I didn’t realize that if I questioned my entire paradigm around dangerous foods, “bad” eating behavior, urges and cravings, and the need for the best body ever….I might have settled down and stopped feeling so frantic about food.
If I had been able to know that my trouble was in my perspective about eating, my interpretation with what I saw, I would have focused much more on my mind than on the scale or the latest diet. Or the next binge.
The second story also has an element of truth, but is again a bit tricky.
2) This eating/compulsion issue is about problems with difficult emotions; if I didn’t react so big, I wouldn’t eat.
 
Well, sure.

 

Big emotions of depression, fear, irritation, sadness or loneliness often feel like they need soothing.

 

If your mind and thoughts are like mine, then you’ll notice when big feelings come it seems dangerous.

 

We have to shut those things down, we think.

 

What better way to do this, than to eat or do some other kind of addictive or compulsive activity?

 

Eat. Big emergency feeling is over.
 
We’ve all heard of the term “emotional eating”. If you’ve done it before, you feel upset, and after a little while (or immediately), the idea of eating sweet, soothing, salty or tasty things sounds fantastic.

 

So the mind then concludes that if only we could get at what made you so emotional and understand it, or make it so these emotions don’t erupt in the first place….then you’ll stop eating because of emotions.

 

Again, the underlying premise of this story is emotions are the thing to blame, the guilty party.

 

So let’s shove them down, eliminate them.

 

We’re back to willpower, management, control, restricting feelings, holding back, forcing, following the rules.

 

Kinda like diets, only towards “feelings” instead.

 

Of course we don’t know what we’re really thinking, we just feel confused and terrible.

 

And keep on eating.

 

For me, this healing work when it comes to eating is about identifying beliefs that are the very foundations we stand on and believe about life…and questioning them.

 

Good news: It’s not as difficult to identify the thoughts and beliefs as you think.

 

The first step is to look at this war-torn land of destructive behavior about eating, food, body and weight and don’t try to DO something immediately, which is what we’ve always done.

 

Instead, let’s ask “I wonder what I must be thinking and believing that would be the trigger for this behavior?”

 

Even this answer may not be as complicated as you think.

 

Does this mean to never structure your food or plan on what you’ll be eating tomorrow?

 

No. Some people really need this as a deeply supportive way to help them stop freaking out about food right now.

 

In the upcoming Eating Peace Basics Live Zoom Course, we’ll be talking about thoughts, feelings and the food itself.

 

Each week, I will share one story (we’ll start with the first two I’ve shared here today) and work with the beliefs that support all these particular stories of agony with eating.

 

This work is about healing eating issues from the inside out.

 

There is no magic pill. But there may be far more magic than you realize…if magic is greater lightness, joy and peace when it comes to eating.

 

Some struggle for so long with eating, they think it’s impossible to end their battle.

 

I believe that for anyone willing to look at thought systems and to question them, it’s possible to change the way you live with food.

 

Eating Peace Basics 101 Online Live Course will run June 24th – August 12th with live Wednesday calls (all recorded) from 9am-10:30am Pacific Time (or start time of Noon ET or 6pm Europe).
In this course I’ll share 8 key foundational stories–one every week–that are key to investigating so we can dissolve the eating wars we’ve been fighting.
To identify our thinking inside these common stories, and then question the beliefs running for us, makes peace possible.
It has for me. I eat whatever and whenever I want without fear, and my weight seems to stay the same, for many years now.
I once ate like I was taken over by an evil force, or a zombie, with huge desperate binges, forced vomiting, torturous exercising by running for miles, and self-hatred.
This no longer occurs to me.
It’s my joy to facilitate freedom from that kind of inner pain with you or anyone suffering from eating wars.
Read more about the Eating Peace Basics course here.
To hear me share more about these first two stories that are helpful to question in the overall healing journey with eating, watch below.

Much love,
Grace
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I shouldn’t eat that….how to find the place beyond painful set-ups about food

I’ve heard from a remarkable number of people in this time of the virus.

At home, strange schedule, near the fridge or the pantry.

Eating. Eating some more.

You are not alone if this is your experience. And, there is a way to heal and end that impulse.

I’m working on a quick free workshop online for those of us with consuming issues. It will be for people in the private facebook group HERE.

The facebook group is free, and a place where we kindly share around how to relax from the root cause–beliefs in the mind–about food, eating, emotions and body image.

I think of the whole world of THOUGHT about eating, body image, exercising, over-examining diet, constant return to eating off-balance….like a religion or a university of eating that’s gone completely off the rails with false stories and beliefs.

Yikes. Lots of rules and regulations, stress, requirements, impossible goals and expectations. You can’t seem to graduate successfully either.

One Bible of Beliefs about food and eating is The Book of Shoulds and Shouldn’ts.

We should do this, and not do that. Eat this, not that. Eat this way, not that way. Eat at this time, not that time. Look this way, not that way.

All while maintaining sanity. So in other words, we even believe we should think certain ways, and feel certain ways.

It’s exhausting, and very difficult to maintain the rigor needed to keep all the “shoulds” together.

The way I found freedom from constant obsessing and failing with food, was to question the “shoulds” that I had since I was a pre-teen.

One of the key ways to work with a “should” that’s screaming in your head, is to first, pause and relax just a moment. Take a deep breath right now. I love how taking in air is incredibly relaxing and regulates the nervous system.

Then, instead of gathering energy or making plans with how you are going to make sure you’re successful at the should or shouldn’t rules about eating….instead…wonder WHY you have the rule?

For example, the simple thought “I shouldn’t eat that”.

Instead of aggressively making plans for how you’re not going to eat it….let’s study the belief and see if it’s true.

Why not?

WHY should you not eat that particular thing?

Our answers often boil down to this one: because I need to lose weight. 

But there’s also this one: because I’m not hungry.

To wonder with compassion about why you have a thought about eating when not hungry, or why it is so incredibly important to get thin, is really interesting.

Are you absolutely sure you are not hungry? Are you absolutely sure you need to lose weight?

There may be a hunger (that isn’t necessarily about your stomach) you’re not allowing yourself to notice, and an ideal you’re trying to achieve that is not possible to achieve peacefully.

It’s a whole world of investigation that’s entirely worth the trip, watching a combative and relentless false belief-system have it’s way with you, so that you’re entirely ruled by it and stuck and miserably unhappy, instead of open and curious.

And that belief system ruins the joy of food, too.

Well, it certainly did for me. I couldn’t eat one bite without my mind saying “you did that wrong” or “good job, you get a gold star “. 

It was like having a vicious authority constantly watching.

Well, it was.

Today, let’s question the simple and common thought “I shouldn’t eat that”. You can think of a specific food.

To question this thought doesn’t mean you’re going to eat it day and night and grow obese or get sick and die.

To question this thought is to open the mind to wondering instead of the rigid, tight and condemning lists of rules formed to succeed.

See what happens. See what kind of softness might possibly appear if you don’t have a “should” or “shouldn’t” running, and instead….you’re free to choose.

And, if you’d like to participate in an online workshop I’ll give for no charge (date coming soon) we can address some of this together, especially in this odd time where many of us are in the kitchen more than ever, wishing we were not there. (Join facebook group here).

Much love,

Grace

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I have to do it right, not wrong…..I HAVE TO worry about this (eating, weight, conditions).

My right thumb was hurt (you get to see in this video–just the bandaids, don’t worry).
I just can barely type.
But I made you a video on a powerful topic, called WORRYING.
The mind will say “you need to worry about this!” (food, eating, meals, plans, body image, weight, size, shape, feelings, conditions….and much much more).
You might think “Well, duh. Of course I have to worry. Are you kidding me?”
Is that actually true though?
Are you sure you need to worry?
What if you did NOT believe this thought?
Wow.

Much love,

Grace

 

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Uh Oh. I had an old glitch in my thinking on the final Eating Peace Webinar: too-much-not-enough-never-just-right

Love the folks who attended the webinars, wow. Thank you for all your emails.

Here is the replay of the very last day, which I think went the very best: no tech troubles, no sudden noises to edit out, no goofy mistakes.

EatingPeace Webinar LIVE 1 24 2020
Eating Peace Webinar: Five Spells to Break, or How We’re Thinking About Food & Body, To Dissolve Our Eating Battles

Although those tech mistakes can be quite entertaining and funny.

I even remembered to put up my front door sign for when clients come over: “Please do NOT knock, IN SESSION”. 

At the end, I did have a tiny glitch however.

It was a “thinking” glitch.

Inside my own head.

A momentary thought based on a comment in the chat: “I just wish the program wasn’t so expensive.”

Sigh.

I’ve gone all over the place from wanting to offer entirely free grant-run programs with no financial barrier to anyone, to wanting to make a decent income for myself and feel compensated for all the time and training undertaken.

It appears to be ever in-between the two, and always finding its own balance.

Perhaps just like the inner world of eating when it’s at peace: not too little, not too much. 

Just right.

I know the fee seems expensive to some, based on the full range of what it available online in the world, from completely free to many thousands of dollars.

I realized in the moment of reading that comment about the fee, I had the opportunity to do The Work on the beliefs “I’ve disappointed people” or “they think it’s too expensive and that means IT IS” or “they wish it was less expensive and that means…..they don’t understand the work and effort put into this” or finally “it means I’m doing something wrong”.

Oh my.

I noticed, I had no idea if any of those are true.

But the distant feeling of stress. Ugh.

I did immense research on the time, expense and effort to build the program and determine the fee (and got help doing this, too).

Suddenly, to connect with this inquiry and share the thinking, I jumped on video and did The Work right on the spot.

I hope you find the familiar voice of what I call Too Much Not Enough Never Just Right helpful to question.

That’s a story or spell I always believed about food. It never seemed it was just right. Ever.

And how about landing on the pricing for this immersion program? Also not just right for some people.

Eating, Money, This Moment, Life: Too Much or Not Enough, Never Just Right
Eating, Money, This Moment, Life: Too Much or Not Enough, Never Just Right

No one needs any program, ultimately. You have a program already, and it’s called Your Life.

This EPE program is created in service to find peace and rest, in our inner world when it comes to food, eating, hunger, fullness, compulsion, weight, fat, thin, lack of connection.

It also is a pay-it-forward to all the people who helped me along the way: therapists, meditation teachers, experts, nutritionists, authors, guides.

My intentions are very sincere and a huge amount of effort and research and constant improvement has gone on to make this program….and it won’t be right for everyone, that’s for sure.

People in the past who have signed up have helped make it better and better.

It’s a grand learning experiment.

If it is sincerely and honestly way too much for you to afford and yet you’d love to participate, then you can apply for a scholarship by filling in detail at the link provided below, letting us know what would work for you–I’ll read it with the assistance of a mentor I trust and we’ll get back to you as soon as possible before Sunday, January 26th at midnight when the Eating Peace Experience program closes.

Click HERE for the scholarship application. Please share as much as possible about your current circumstances.

And to all of you eating peace readers, my sincere thanks in this journey of the past few weeks gearing up to Eating Peace Experience.

And now return you to your regularly scheduled programming (LOL): Eating Peace encouragement around once a week. If you wish to unsubscribe, click on the very tiny small letters at the bottom of any email where it says Update Preferences/Unsubscribe.

Much love,

Grace

 
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Question this thinking, change your eating….permanently

Wow, the very last Eating Peace LIVE Webinar this season of the new 2020 is today, Friday January 24th at noon Pacific Time. 
It’s just about completely full, no more room. If you’re interested in attending live, you can see if there’s a space still left right here.
(If you registered and can’t attend, please cancel so there’s a space for someone else).
Yesterday after last night’s webinar I received a beautiful note thanking me so so much for this work in eating peace.
This work is so important.
Lives get ruined because of LACK of eating peace and the repetitive trying to do it the same way over and over again: diet, exercise, control, force.
The only way I found inner peace with food and eating was the way I teach it: identifying and questioning thought patterns that fuel crazy eating.
Sound too simple?
It’s not.
The stress of eating wildly looks and sounds awful. We feel horrendous, nervous, like food and eating is dangerous and an area for being really really careful.
We think food makes us fat, wrong, ugly, greedy. We hate ourselves and our bodies.
We feel hopelessly ashamed, and still we sneak food.
If this has been YOU, then I hope you’ll join me in the Eating Peace Experience where our mission is ending eating battles for good.
Everyone who joins Eating Peace online is in for life. You join, and if you need to return to a future round of looking at compulsion even if it’s not necessarily food….you never pay again.
I am committed to growing, learning and transforming with you, one step and one day at a time.
The most inspiring things have occurred from offering this advanced work in transforming beliefs around food, eating, bodies, thin, fat, hunger, fullness, emotions, boredom, pleasure, dependency, fear, trauma, rejection and acceptance.
Eating troubles, quite honestly, wound up shaping my life into one of freedom, service, and a spiritual path I never imagined possible.
We’re finding a new freedom from eating torture and the need to control, and discovering calm and rest within when it comes to food.
Really, when it comes to our whole lives.
It doesn’t mean all emotions are all-peace all the time 24/7.
No.
I have doubt, worry, anxiety, sadness, grief, anger, irritation.
It’s called being human.
But these feelings have nothing to do with eating. Eating doesn’t occur to me as a way to resolve feelings, or calm myself down. It just doesn’t even come up. Eating doesn’t have to do with staying or getting thin. Eating doesn’t have to do with yet another way I can hate myself.
Eating off balance and feeling strong feelings including shame have been un-velcroed from each other.
The cravings, urges and compulsions have dissolved.
These past six days I worked with the group who came to Eating Peace Retreat to discover the way to end disordered eating, disordered thinking.
Light bulbs went off.
The shifts as we stepped through our days as we ate, thought, questioned, walked and even danced together were gorgeous to behold.
And now, a new group online gets to gather, share, and continue the healing movement of Eating Peace-Thinking Peace in our daily lives.
No matter who you are, no matter how crazy you’ve been with eating and food….I know you have the capacity to find peace with eating and your body.
It all starts with identifying the tricky, debilitating, difficult thoughts that drive off-balance eating.
Once we see, we can question them: “is that actually true?”
We can find out for ourselves, and stop doubting and freaking out.
I can’t wait to see you in Eating Peace Experience.
We begin on Monday! WOW! 
We’re looking at a paradigm shift from eating battles to eating peace.
What could be better than that, after all this suffering and agony?
Sign up for the full Eating Peace Experience here and let’s sail into this leap year 2020 together, and bring peace to broken hearts about our bodies, weight and ways of eating.
Join me HERE. Everyone who joins gets membership for life.

Much love,

Grace

 

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Happiness doesn’t depend on what happens, my body shape or size, or the food

Being happy is not dependent on the shape and weight of your body, or the food in your kitchen or in your hand. Happiness requires turning your attention to happiness, questioning your thinking, noticing.
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Woohoo! We successfully went live and broadcast without a hitch on Monday’s Eating Peace Webinar with no tech troubles.
(Well, the slides could have been bigger for at least one person. Next time, I’ll be able to expand them to full size).
This is the way of it. Continued learning. Keep getting feedback, keep refining. A wonderful adventure.
And now, I have a request that would mean so much: If you’ve watched the webinar live or the recording so far could you answer 10 questions (completely anonymous) right HERE? (It should take about 4 minutes).
This helps things keep getting better and better; it can’t happen without you.
I want to create a powerful webinar that will support people ending their suffering around eating like I experienced, even if they never buy or attend anything with me.
I mean it.
I was so lost in my disordered-thinking, off-balance feeling and eating experience….I’m not sure if the internet had existed I would have been able to find peace online to be honest. Not at the beginning of my journey.
But later, absolutely. I watch and listen to so much that’s available, it’s amazing.
And speaking of ongoing, regular, steady improvement and refinement….
….I remember a time when I never felt like that was happening when it came to eating.
Ugh.
If you feel like me, my attempts to find calm and satisfaction and to quit being so obsessive with food was like doing a replay of stepping on a rake, and rake hitting face, over and over and over again.
Think of every rake as a new diet plan.
Sigh.
The Simpsons - Sideshow Bob Stepping On Rakes Compilation
The Simpsons – Sideshow Bob Stepping On Rakes Compilation
Now, I know so much better how to connect with people. I know how to connect with my own inner questions, with my honest feelings, with my own needs. I have so much less judgment of myself and of others.
What a relief.

Life with food, eating and having a body–no matter how imperfect–has become calm. Not dreadful and dramatic.

You can have this too. It’s all about inquiring and noticing the hellish stories you believe about eating or yourself, or the world….are really not true for you.
Four more masterclass webinars still to come in the weeks ahead Eating Peace–Five Spells to Break to End Your Eating Battles:
  • Weds, January 15th at 9am PT/ Noon ET (soon!)
  • Tuesday, January 21st 10am PT/ 7pm Europe
  • Thursday, January 23rd 5pm PT/ 10am Japan
  • Friday, January 24th Noon PT/3pm ET (last one)
To register, choose your date, and receive the link to attend please click here. Note: a popup will appear in order for you to enter your email–be sure to have your popup blocker off.
Much love,
Grace
P.S. Thank you so much in advance for your feedback on the webinar!
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I made a mistake: that bite, that food, that pound gained.

If you’ve recently been reading my eating peace ebook, thanks for being here! You’ve arrived just in time to attend a live webinar I don’t do very often, in preparation for the Eating Peace Experience coming up at the end of January.

Eating Peace Webinar: Monday January 13th 10:00am PT/ 1:00pm ET/ 7:00pm Europe. Sign up here to attend live and ask me anything. There are also 4 other options for taking this live masterclass–you’ll see them when you click the link to register. A great opportunity to listen, share and do this work together.

(If you’d rather not be on this list, scroll down an unsubscribe any time. I usually send out an email and eating peace video around once every ten days). 

Looking at the world through the eyes of opposites, of right and wrong, of duality….is common. It’s often the only way we seem to know.

In this belief system, there is a Right Way and a Wrong Way to be. With food, eating, body size, appearance.

Right/Wrong, Mistaken Way/ Correct Way, Bad/Good, Successful/Failure, Uncertain/ Certain, Strong/ Wishy-Washy, I Know/ I Don’t Know, Against it/ For It.

Everything’s very black and white, and “clear” in a way, and that’s the GOAL. To know the FINAL answer (like the game show, LOL).

In this world, no ambivalence is allowed, no uncertainty. It’s much better to have certainty and to be right about your way. You might even have supporting data for how your way is the best way, perhaps even the only way.

And then….a “mistake” is made.

Trouble is, when YOU screw up or make a mistake….you follow the usual steps of self-attack, punishment, criticism, anger, disappointment, confusion, fear and a return to “your” way (which is the “right” and “best” way).

I love thinking about all the right/wrong perspective and how it lives so fully in our minds sometimes. It happens in ways that are so much more than only food, eating and body image.

Last week, for example, I offered my live webinar for the first time and made a “mistake” of locking people out of it.

So, the live webinar went to no one “live”.

It was a fun teaching and this material is incredibly profound and powerful for help with understanding the suffering around eating issues–at least it has been for me–but I had no interaction or questions or chats, which seemed confusing.

No comments, no feedback, no emojis.

But is it true that I made a mistake?

Consider the times you’ve taken a compulsive bite of food. You’ve repeated the pattern of overeating, over-indulging, eating the “wrong” thing, shame, secretive thinking. The pain of stuffing in food chaotically without caring about yourself.

Who would you be without the energy of right/wrong and condemnation about this experience?

What if you opened your mind, relaxed with yourself gently, and turned to the possibility that you are not a problem, and there is another way?

Who would you be without the idea that a mistake has been made? Who would you be without the belief you’re sick and twisted and broken and you have to crack down and be rigid?

What if there was another way besides being RIGHT or WRONG?

What if I can notice I’m panic-eating….and be mindful and do The Work of inquiry and shifting my own mind?

Turning the thought around: I have not made a terrible mistake.

I can start again, today, right now. I can breathe deeply, regroup, get support.

Turning around the thought again: my thinking is making a terrible mistake

Yes, especially when I condemn myself and the world and eating and food and weight and other people–or anything else in reality.

Much love,

Grace

 

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The ambivalent pain of both wanting and not wanting to stop eating.

Sign up for it here (pick your best time from 5 other choices). This workshop online will be super informative and very helpful for how to work mindfully to end your eating issues and relax.

One of the most fascinating experiences around compulsion of any kind, is to inquire and look at our ambivalence about ending this destructive off-balance eating thing.

We know even if we feel comfortable today with being “in control” around food and eating, that often LATER, in the future, we might be haunted by the urge to eat.

Things are good now. I might change my mind. I “have to” stay in charge. I need to build up the willpower.

And the inevitable happens.

One day, down the road, we overeat, binge eat, graze eat, blow the “plan”.

Have you ever looked at how stressful it is to stay “on” the plan? To be doing it perfectly or just right? To be following the rules?

Byron Katie says “Don’t be careful, you might hurt yourself.”

I was soooo careful with food, eating, health, body weight, image that I hurt myself deeply.

That can be over at that level. Life with food is supposed to be relaxing, and fun!

Who would we be about the stories we’ve been so sure are true?

If you’d like to join our free facebook community Eating Peace: Question Your Thinking, Change Your Eating visit us HERE. The only requirement is a desire to end disordered thinking/disordered eating. Everyone is welcome.
Much love,
Grace
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The torture of swinging between too much and not enough (+eating peace webinar)

Eating Peace Experience is coming. This is my highest touch, thorough, deep dive program into identifying and questioning the thinking that drives any kind of off-balance eating.

It changes and updates every single time.

We begin January 27, 2020 and go until April 16, 2020 (and probably a bonus week beyond).

Before the program starts, especially if you’re curious about the program or where to begin on this eating peace journey, I’m offering a webinar workshop online at six different times: “Five Stories We Tell That Keep Us Fighting Eating Wars”. 
Save your seat

You can sign up for it here (pick your best time).

I like to think of these five stories as “spells”. Like magic spells, it’s like we’re under a trance assuming what we think is true. We experience craving, eating, stuffing, starving, vowing, worrying, dieting, punishing, criticizing and everything in between when we tend to believe these stories.

How incredible to get off that ride and out of that mindset, for good.

Join me by signing up for the free webinar right here (you’ll get to take a look at the dates offered and choose your best time and day).

NOTE: If you are a previous Eating Peace Online participant, and you’re joining us again (everyone who’s enrolled so far in the program has had access for life) then please make sure you let me know so I can include you in my “active participants” list.

One of my favorite things about this journey of studying compulsion, stress, worry, agony, addiction, pain and suffering is how it becomes easier and easier along the way.

I’m still on a journey, for example, of relaxing around the mind. I feel the anxious nature of mind, and move (hopefully sooner than later) to question the beliefs arising.

The beliefs don’t result in eating off-balance, or hurting myself badly….thank goodness. But they might cause me to wake up at night, or ruminate on something and study it.

Which is OK. Nothing wrong with that. It’s called being human.

There’s nothing wrong with you if you’ve been in and out of compulsion, even for years. You just haven’t learned another way.

Wherever you’ve come from, you can open up to where you are right now, and now, and now and begin to access freedom and peace in this present moment–the only place it actually is.

Here’s how and what to do if you think you can’t and you’ve been having a terrible time with eating (or planning your next food or diet program):

If you’d like to join our free facebook community Eating Peace: Question Your Thinking, Change Your Eating visit us HERE. The only requirement is a desire to end disordered thinking/disordered eating.

Everyone is welcome.

Much love,

Grace

P.S. Friday January 3rd is “First Friday with Grace” which is a 90 minute open complimentary session in The Work of Byron Katie on anything and everything. Join me here.
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Stressful thinking, stressful eating: calming the mind when it comes to feast and social gatherings

I’m researching our fears and worries about young people and eating. Have you ever felt terrified your daughter might be developing an eating disorder?

Have you felt nervous about all the junk food at your sister’s house where she’s raising your nieces and nephews?

If you’ve had any worries at all, I’d love to have your candid answers on this survey here. Thanks for taking the time.

This work will be used for future support for how we can be with eating, food and body image ideals and not freak out but support our children, teens or those we live with. Even if your kids are grown, or you’re not a parent but have definitely been worried about someone developing eating issues….I’d love to hear from you. To fill out the survey please visit here.

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Have you been stressing because of family or other social gatherings, parties, celebrations, feasts?

Lots of food can be present. In fact, even if we’ve wished it to be so, it would be weird NOT to have food at social gatherings with others.

But disordered eating I found was born from disordered thinking.

Those thoughts. They do seem like a problem, don’t they?

In the past, I really believed everything I thought about food, eating and body image.

It was all pretty scary.

The mind was screaming at me: “Watch Out!” or “Get Ready, This Will Be Hard!” (about a holiday feast or celebration for example) or “Be Vigilant!”

You can’t be very internally calm or free when you have a voice running like this inside your head, right?

How to calm down?

Dis-connect yourself from that part of your mind. Notice that it is NOT you anyway–you’re already Not That. It’s only a voice.

You can stop watching that horror movie and stop getting worked up.

Watch how to handle this kind of alarm right here:

If you’d like to join our free facebook community Eating Peace: Question Your Thinking, Change Your Eating visit us HERE. The only requirement is a desire to end disordered thinking/disordered eating. Everyone is welcome.

Much love,

Grace
P.S. I’m working hard behind the scenes on an upcoming free webinar for everyone, coming LIVE in January in preparation for Eating Peace Experience which starts January 27th. Stay tuned for how to sign up for the free webinar and share it with others so we spread the word that eating peace is possible for everyone.