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One of the biggest, grandest, big-behemoth stressful thoughts that lead to stressful eating?
I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT!!!!
This can be a constant thought, returning every time you gain weight or are at your “highest” weight or on the upside of the roller coaster ride, or when you see yourself in the mirror randomly and you normally don’t even think this thought.
It’s very stressful.
The thing is, we think we NEED this thought in order to be inspired or motivated to be thin. We think we have to be aggressive and intense with our minds.
How could we possibly give up this thought? How could we give up the thought we need to fix something, anything…whether weight or some kind of behavior around health and the body. I need to exercise, I need to eat healthy, I need to read every label, I need to do it right, I absolutely must appear “thin”.
It’s true! It’s true!
But what if you allowed that thought to settle down a moment and you didn’t have it?
What many people find, is a little more to look at.
Wow…what if I gave this up? Then what? I notice I still want to be more balanced, more peaceful with eating and food and this body.
What if it’s my thinking that needs to lose weight….especially about this whole weight loss thing?
If I had taken weight loss and thinness less seriously when I was 8 years old (the first time I was alarmed that I might be too fat) I might not have even moved in the direction I moved.
I may not have even developed an eating disorder or a yo-yo eating plan, or starvation vs stuffed. Although, I am now incredibly and deeply grateful for having that disorder because it was so extreme, it brought me to my knees which ultimately was an incredible give of letting go of control.
What a painful story it is to need to lose weight….but if you find yourself thinking it, you might begin to wonder why you have it so strongly?
What would you have, if you had this lower weight? What would it give you? What is your identity saying is required, for happiness?
If you were given the choice to have peaceful, simple, beautiful, loving eating for the rest of your life….with zero weight loss….would you take it?
If you say “no” then you might want to dig a little deeper into why you believe you need to keep this suffering. Just saying.
Much love, Grace