I’m still thinking about Mothers today. What a fantastic topic!
Before I had questioned my concepts about mothering and what it should look like, I was a young mother myself.
Trying to be a “good” mother before you’ve ever questioned any of your beliefs about motherhood can be sooooooooo painful.
Here are some of the standards I expected myself to follow:
- I should have a low, calm voice at all times with my children (ha ha)
- They should do what I ask
- We are late
- The house is too messy (they should be seeing the mess just as I see it)
- I should love playing board games, or doing art
- I need to cook good dinners
- My children need to know I love them every minute of every hour
It’s so exhausting trying to be a “good” mother all the time.
I want to be one of the good ones! Please Please Please! The way I reacted when I believed this thought is I read every book I could get my hands on about parenting. I thought obsessively. I felt terrible if I did something “wrong”.
But there’s a whole other way of looking at what IS. That this reality of the way your mother was, and the way you are as a mother, is just right for your path in awareness and waking up.
Your mother is the PERFECT mother for you. Your awareness of where you are not measuring up as a mother yourself is your perfect entry point for questioning what a good mother should be.
“The world is perfect. As you question your mind, this becomes more and more obvious. Mind changes, and as a result, the world changes. A clear mind heals everything that needs to be healed. It can never be fooled into believing that there is one speck out of order.”~ Byron Katie ~
This means not one speck is out of order when it comes to your mother. She offers up to you what needs to be healed, in your mind. Not one speck is out of order when it comes to your own mothering. Not one.