I am loving the fabulous collective of people starting today the journey of the next six weeks doing The Work together on stressful thinking during Summer Camp For The Mind Immersion.
People have shared with me they are working on a relationship ending, racism, compulsive eating, lack of work, worry about the future, feeling rejected.
Oooh, rejection.
Have you ever thought “they hate me!”?
They hate me, this is dangerous, I’m afraid, I need to get away from them, I don’t understand them, they are accusing me, they should accept me instead of reject me.
An inquirer shared she had this thought about far more than only one person in her life.
It seemed to be a theme, a top hit.
I’ve had this thought that someone hates me when they go silent (perhaps especially when they do).
Often in my family of origin, instead of screaming, there was ghosting and cut-off. It seemed the better choice of the two (so much shame in screaming and “losing it”).
But what if no matter how people are reacting, even if they say “I HATE YOU!”….
….we could still question that story?
For the next Peace Talk Podcast Episode, that’s exactly what this inquirer questioned: the belief she was hated in a very specific moment when she received a look of hatred.
Maybe the one looking did not approve, and DID hate….and we can still totally question what we believe that apparent hatred means for us, for them, for the world.
Watch on youtube here, or listen on apple podcasts below.
Much love,
Grace