About Grace Bell

February 13, 2015

Eating Peace: Healing Eating Wars With Mind, Feelings, Body, Spirit

If you got the chance to watch my webinar on many in’s and out’s of healing eating troubles, thank you.

I was going through the webinar the other day and realized at the end, I talk about my upcoming online Eating Peace 3 month program….and the dates are for last autumn.

I did teach the course last autumn!

But now….it’s February!

And many of you have written me to ask….well, heck, are you teaching the online class again soon and how do I sign up?

That would be YES.

Registration actually opens tomorrow, on Valentine’s Day. I’ll send a quick, short email with details in the morning with how to register.

But such a comprehensive program may not be right for you, right now. That’s OK. It’s a pretty intensive, full program, with weekly webinars and additional weekly live calls for questioning stressful thoughts using The Work of Byron Katie. There’s only one week off between each module and we go all the way until the very end of May!

Click through to my website to read all the details about the entire program and how it works right HERE….

….but meanwhile….

….here’s a video where I expand on the areas I studied, all of which came together in a big interconnected way for healing:

Mind, Feelings, Body and Spirit.

In the video in each area, I give you a really vital key you can use for changing your relationship with food and eating.

Start to use these tools and principles.

As you change your inner world when it comes to food and eating, you help change the experience of eating from agony to joy.

When you feel the joy of being alive, having a body, and eating, you spread the joy just by being yourself.

Then more and more people can become free from self-condemnation when it comes to food, or compulsion with food, or terrible violent thoughts and behaviors with food.

“There is something better than endlessly pushing the boulder of obsession up the mountain: putting it down. And if you are willing to refrain from dieting and needing an instant solution, and if you want to use your relationship with food as the unexpected path, you will discover that God has been here all along….In each moment of kindness you lavish upon your breaking heart or the size of your thighs, with each breath you take–God has been here. She is you.” ~ Geneen Roth

Enjoy! And leave a comment, I love to hear how these ideas work in your life:

February 12, 2015

Stress: A Built-In Friendly Alarm Clock To Awakening

Have you heard my new little podcast episodes (only 4-6 minutes each) Peace Talk on itunes….this week its on LOVE and when it goes wrong. Subscribe and submit a review!

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Yowser, I am very excited today.

Have you ever been super nervous crazy excited about something about to happen, and you LIKE the thing about to happen, but it’s almost too exciting?

This may sound a little low-key to you (I am the one jumping up and down)….

….but I have a new Eating Peace online class opening up for registration on Saturday morning….

….and the very same day, I’m leaving to go away with my sweetheart for two nights to a surprise destination (husband made the reservations)!

Valentine’s Day!!!

Here’s the funniest thing.

When I was getting married (to current husband–2nd marriage) only 2-1/2 years ago, my skin on my hands started getting flakey in the few weeks before.

Then they started pealing.

Like a strange sort of eczema only on my hands. I kept putting lotion all over them, I made sure not to drink any caffeine or anything dehydrating, and was kinda wondering what was going on.

Summer shedding of skin?

Then my mom caught a glimpse of them and said, “oh, your getting your stress reaction you’ve always gotten since you were young, remember?”

Oh!

Weird. I completely forgot.

THIS HAS HAPPENED BEFORE.

How incredibly odd to forget such a thing. The mind is very good at blanking out.

And I’m pretty interested in conscious awareness of myself and all my actions!

This reminded me that energy racing through the body has its own way, and the mind is not always aware (your mind might like to

think it is…..but, not so much).

For me, a very, very introverted person by nature, having all the attention of a wedding was pretty wild. Awesome, but wild.

Same with this coming weekend with a course and a surprise vacation happening.

But as I sit here right now, writing….

….who would I be without the belief that something around the corner, where I’ll have attention directed towards me and I’ll need to respond and stay engaged….is stressful?

Who would I be without the belief that the energy I feel inside is stressy?

What if it was gentle, calm, being connected with others, answering peoples’ questions, responding to emails and registrations, driving off to spend time with my best friend and husband, enjoying close conversation, relaxing and feeling anticipation all at the same time?

Gosh. I don’t know if I can feel truly relaxed in this situation.

But what would it be like without THAT thought?

Ahhhhh.

Suddenly I get it.

I could let my whole body get floppy. My shoulders drop, I stretch my legs out while writing here, with my laptop on my thighs.

I take a very deep, long breath.

Tick, tock, slow, down.

Right now is now. Empty room. Space, quiet.

Even tomorrow, and the next day, when activity is happening and computers, emails, packing, driving, busy-ness are all occurring….

….there is still quiet space.

“That’s the purpose of stress. It’s a friend. It’s an alarm clock, built in to let you know that it’s time to do The Work. You’ve simply lost the awareness that you’re free. So you investigate, and you return to what you are. This is what’s waiting to be recognized, what is always real.” ~ Byron Katie

Love, Grace

February 11, 2015

A Day In Heaven With Technological Difficulties

Technology hell or heaven? Question your thinking and see.

Day before yesterday I spent a lot of time recording a video for Eating Peace and finishing my Peace Talk podcast episodes for the week on romantic love.

The first video got entirely deleted after there wasn’t any more “start up disk” space, and I spent an hour deleting old photos, movie clips and audio files….

….and apparently also, the video I had just created.

Then the Peace Talk podcast got trimmed the wrong way.

As in, I was deleting the very end silent space, I thought, but instead deleted the entire podcast and got left with…..the space.

Then my battery on my computer wouldn’t charge.

Down to the apple store for what turned out to be a new battery (they are always so nice at the apple store).

Back home.

Battery still won’t charge.

Back to the apple store for a new charger now, turns out.

Everything new! Yippee!

Do it over again!

Ha ha.

But I will say, this might be something in the past I’d have a hissy fit about.

However, I noticed I had intentionally arranged no clients (it was the day after retreat) and a mid-afternoon massage.

I pretty much futzed with technology until the massage. Then re-did everything I did earlier all over again AFTER the massage.

Who would I be without the thought that the technology situation was a “disaster” and “taking waaaaaaaay toooooooo long!” and even something to be upset about?

Noticing how I had time for everything.

I enjoyed waiting (twice) in the apple store working on emails and writing and hearing the hum of many voices all around, wearing my yoga pants and slippers back and forth between house, car, parking lot and store.

Stressed? Not really.

I heard the voice complaining about what a waste of time, blah blah, but it was like the voice was in a cave in the back yard, quite a distance away. I just couldn’t believe it was true.

Wow.

When I finished the video (no retakes! just one take!) it uploaded in record speed to youtube and just went out to all the Eating Peace subscribers.

So how was it a good thing that I had a day of non-stop technical details?

No idea.

But it sure was fun not having a heart attack about it. Kind of amazing, I thoroughly enjoyed myself.

Who knew.

“Praise this day–and with each breath you take be filled with the golden arc of love which announces the ending of your argument with God. Praise this day simply because it exists and sit down now in the warm skin of your own lap; for you are home and it is time to rest in the merciful light of your own eyes.” ~ Adyashanti

Yeah. Even on a day with broken batteries, chargers, vanishing files, deleted videos, time ticking by, deleted podcasts.

If I had run out of gas, or my car had broken down on the road or something, I might have been in heaven.

Except I think I already was.

Love, Grace

February 11, 2015

Eating Peace – Four Areas To Look When It Comes To Troubled Eating

In the last 3 or 4 years I’ve had a strange and completely unplanned phase of gathering all the teachings I ever received around healing eating troubles….

….and categorizing them into four broad and spacious areas.

I did this because people asked me for help.

I wasn’t shy about saying I had healed from a raging eating disorder and whacked thinking about food.

But I also sometimes felt very reluctant to help.

It’s so intense! It took so long! All those healers, therapists, retreats, workshops, books, and degrees!

How could I ever put into words what I’ve learned about having a fabulous relationship with food?

But one day, I started.

I sat very quietly, considering what was the “answer” to this difficult problem with food, when there is too much, or not enough, and never any deep satisfaction?

I had worked with many clients over time, young women from teens to college students….and then older women all the way to age 80.

Then I had a man come for help with food and eating, and another.

I had lots of experience working with these people one-on-one, I had brought in self-inquiry especially in the form of The Work of Byron Katie to question what we thought was true in the moments we want to reach for food even though we’re not hungry.

And something started coming together to make this easier, more organized, more helpful.

The four broad areas I began to think about (and feel about) became the perfect areas for awareness of what really worked, and what didn’t.

Mind, Feelings, Body, Spirit.

It was so exciting to see what fit where along my journey, what was most important for me to learn, what really made a powerful difference.

Today in this fairly short video, I talk about this part of my freedom journey around food, eating and body….

….where I feel like after several decades of “work” on finding peace around food, I was drawn to take a look-see back over all the path I took, pick the very best of it all, the cream of the crop of teachings, and offer this to others who want to heal their relationship with food, too.

Because I know, every person who returns to joy and innocence with food has access to pleasure, joy, love and simplicity, not just around eating….

….but around everything else in their lives!

Seriously, it’s hard to believe, but the relationship with food, eating and the body really was an avenue into the deepest spirit within me.

If you change the way you experience food, you’ll change the way you experience your entire life.

Click below to watch today’s video.

Then, in a few days, I’ll send a video where I talk about the highlights I found in each area….

….Mind, Feelings, Body, and Spirit….

….that were the MOST important to learn to make peace with eating.

You can use them to help you heal the way you eat and the way you relate to food, or your size.

If I could do it, you can too.

Much love, Grace

February 10, 2015

Valentine’s Day Expectations Hurting You?

cupidheart During the month of February, I notice hearts appearing in the grocery store, red shiny boxes near the check-out section, red heart decorations in windows of other businesses, hearts dangling from the ceiling at the gym, at the dance studio, on the doors of the library.

Reminders of LOVE everywhere.

I smile every time and feel kind of giggly, because I feel like a part of a heart tribe somehow….

….like I found my own heart somewhere along my own path of life and it feels so warm and brilliant.

But its not the way it feels for everyone.

Some people look at all the red hearts and feel like they’re missing out, like other people are having fun celebrating love….

….but not them.

Ow.

I can remember this kind of longing coming to mind in the past.

Oddly, it could be there with or without a relationship in my life.

Valentine’s Day is for feeling some kind of love, ecstasy, celebration, swoon….

….and I’m not feelin’ it!

Poor me! Waaaaah! Sad Day!

So if you have some kind of thought that something is “missing” about your love life….

….whether it’s entirely non-existent or just not happening in your current relationship situation….

….pause a moment.

Let’s inquire.

Notice that feeling of absence.

Whenever I felt this, I immediately began to think I needed to do something.

I should find a good partner, I need a better partner than the one I have, this is not true love, being alone is worse than being with someone else, I would be really happy if I were at a fancy romantic dinner with a red rose given to me, being single sucks, having the wrong partner sucks….This. Is. Not. It.

Is it true?

Yeah! I want a romance like my friend Gena! This is not the best it could be!

Yeah! I’m lonely! Being by myself in my apartment is a drag!

Are you absolutely sure? Is it really true?

Even if you say “yes, yes, yes” then keep going.

How do you react when you think something else would be better for you, than what you have, when it comes to romantic love?

Dreaming, longing, imagining, feeling less-than, feeling like a loser, sure there’s something missing.

For some people, it might be very agonizing.

Maybe you sign up for every online dating company out there. You’re hunting for your missing mate.

Maybe you’re resigned to being single and you give up entirely and decide to be content without a partner for eternity.

But who would you be in this moment right now, without any of these thoughts or strategies?

Who would you be without the idea that someone is missing, or you have to have a person around to experience love and romance and ecstasy?

Who would you be without the belief that your current partner isn’t the right partner, or not good enough?

Sometimes people are afraid to imagine this, because they think they’ll get stuck with their current partner forever, or stuck being single forever.

What if THAT wasn’t true?

Could you simply notice the joy and thrill of whatever “romance” is, and having fun imagining a fun story unfolding that involved the happiness of love?

If you turned your stressful beliefs around about red hearts, valentines, love, something-missing, being single, being stuck in a partnership….

….whatever you’re thinking is true that hurts….

….what would that be like?

How would it feel?

I have a good partner (the universe, myself, the person I’m going to meet), I have a brilliant partner right now in this moment, this is true love, being alone is fabulous and thrilling and mysterious, I would not be really happy if I were at a fancy romantic dinner with a red rose given to me (and I could also make that happen), being single is fun, having the wrong partner is fascinating and full of learning….This. Is. It.

Wow.

Do you think you’ll experience some kind of change feeling joyin this moment, no matter what your situation….

….or feeling upset?

“You’re just suffering from the belief that there’s something missing from your life. In reality, you always have what you need…The teacher you need is the person you’re living with.” ~ Byron Katie

What I truly found was that as I did The Work on my past relationships that went sour, and on my single-ness, and on my grabby-addictive times with men, on all partners in all situations that brought on irritation, sadness, abandonment, desperation, unhappiness….

….I feel a complete unattached joy about this moment, now.

And I notice there happens to be the cutest man living in my house to whom I am apparently married.

But really, right in this moment, there’s an empty room with silence and space, and the cutest woman ever.

Me.

Maybe you can find this for yourself, too?

I know you can.

Then you’re so free, it doesn’t matter if you’re celebrating Valentine’s Day or not…it’s so much fun right now, being you, wherever you are.

Love, Grace

February 9, 2015

Could You Be On Retreat, No Matter What You’re Doing?

Woah.

When you leave retreat, are you still on retreat? The light's blown out, but you are still home. — When you leave retreat, are you still on retreat? The light’s blown out, but you are still home.

Words can hardly express how ecstatically joyful I feel after being with an amazing retreat full of people this past weekend….

….all gathered together in Eating Peace, the in-person version of my new program rebuilt and expanded hugely this past year.

I finally sat down and wrote everything I ever learned that was absolutely key in dissolving emotional eating in my life.

Then I condensed the absolute most important points into 3 days.

I spent every hour with the group from 9 am until after dinner and our evening session.

Including meals.

We practiced mindful eating. Slowly taking each bite together, feeling the textures, the sensation of swallowing, the explosion of tastes, the smell of our food.

We did The Work of Byron Katie. We questioned our stressful beliefs.

I feel slow right now…..relaxed, kicking back, satisfied, accomplished.

And a funny thought came to mind as I returned home, noticed I felt hungry already upon arrival, and joined my teenage daughter chewing on roasted chicken right from the container.

We laughed and talked….and in the back of my mind I thought “what if all the participants in Eating Peace saw me eating now like this, standing in my kitchen, joking with my daughter, eating with my fingers?

OMG, they would see I’m different than the way I was on retreat!!”

Fortunately, I could notice that thought and not believe it, even chuckle, because I know this way of eating is just as wonderful for me as the other very slow, very mindful way of eating.

Really, both are sacred.

I do not forget that this thing called food, something apparently from outside of myself is entering and joining with me in a beautiful act of unification.

Two are becoming one, in the act of eating.

Even standing in the kitchen.

But it wasn’t always this way. In the past, when my eating was waaaayyyy disordered and horribly uncomfortable (even violent) I felt like I was TRYING to become one with something….

….desperately grabbing….

….but I just couldn’t feel it.

What it came down to was this one very painful thought about life, my inner world, and my relationship with the universe.

Something is scary here. Something is missing. Something is wrong with me. Quick! Run!

Other people have this same thought, I realized later.

They might not turn into eating weirdos with this alarming view of the universe….

….instead, they might drink, smoke, analyze, watch TV, shop, clean, exercise, THINK.

There are so many escapist activities to choose from, to take the edge off and hide for awhile, not feel so vulnerable, not be so daunted by the largeness of life.

But who would you be without the belief that you have to hide something? That there’s something wrong with you? Or that there is something frightening happening by being here on planet earth?

This is a huge idea….not easy perhaps to imagine.

And yet, you can.

You’ve imagined the opposite already, right?

You’ve imagined that the world is frightening, life is difficult, the universe is sometimes out to get you, or it’s chaotic. Bad things happen you’ve imagined. You’ve definitely thought there might be something missing, or wrong with you.

Why not see what it would be like, with that incredible imagination, without these dreadful, fearful thoughts?

What do you notice is happening right now, for example?

Are you OK?

Is anything truly dangerous occurring?

“To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment….What liberation to realize the voice in your head is not who you are.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Now, the retreat is over, but in truth, watching, clarity, love and gratitude continues to live….even if its in the kitchen, standing, laughing while holding a greasy chicken bone.

The retreat continues.

Love, Grace

February 6, 2015

Eating Peace – A Group Can Change Your World

If you're feeling alone, find group support — If you’re feeling alone, find group support

It’s the weekend and I’m having such an amazing time in the Eating Peace In-Person retreat here in Seattle, Washington.

In the middle of the retreat, I thought of how incredible it is to connect with others intimately to explore weirdness with food.

I wish everyone who suffers from eating woes could have the experience of simple support.

There is something unbelievably profound about hanging out in a group of like-minded people all desiring freedom.

It was truly a life-changer for me in my history of changing my relationship with food from horrible to easy.

Back then, every day I would wake up and eat lightly–it seemed easier to avoid food in the morning. I drank coffee. I didn’t feel deep hunger.

Sometime mid-morning I’d begin to feel hungry…and sometimes I’d get something to eat and maybe even enjoy it, especially if I went back to work quickly or was occupied with tasks.

But as the day progressed, the thoughts about food might come swarming in, louder and louder.

I’d be at odds with hunger, fullness, and almost any considerations of food.

I should eat this, I shouldn’t eat that, what did I eat yesterday, will I be eating a dinner later with others, what time is it and is that the right time to eat, will they notice what I’m eating, did I eat too much, could I eat less later, I think I made a mistake, I need to control my behavior, I should have a food plan of some kind, I’m lost, I just want to eat whatever I want!

If I really ate what I thought was wrong, I *HATED* myself.

I mean, I wasn’t just a nag…..I was a total be-och raving lunatic mean girl…..to me.

So of course I would start my morning out starving myself again, and drinking coffee to kick it up a notch and accomplish stuff.

Then one day, in great pain and recognition that this situation wasn’t changing when it was left up to me….

….I called a phone number that listed a “Beyond Dieting” group for emotional eating recovery.

That was my first small, intimate group with about ten women, led by a therapist, and I found out I was not alone, I wasn’t completely mad, and there was hope for me.

What a huge relief.

When I first began connecting with others and being willing to be in contact with the human race, I wasn’t used to group support.

For example, it never even occurred to me to connect until one week when I came in very disappointed with myself for binge-eating again.

The group leader said “you know, Grace, you can call other people in your group during the week if you feel cravings, or you feel lonely.”

Doh!

I avoided contacting others, I wouldn’t call…until the same therapist suggested “How about you actually make a plan to call someone from our group in between weeks EVERY WEEK for a month? And tell us how you’re doing?!”

Seriously?

I have to commit to calling people?

I noticed, I was nervous about what I was going to talk about when I called at first. What will I say? What if I bother them? How will I end the conversation?

But it turned out, even though I was anxious to actually call other people who knew the real me….I did it, and it was the beginning of the end of isolation for me.

I made sincere friends.

They even know about this gross binge-eating, overeating, over-exercising cycle I would get into.

And still they cared.

It was the way out, to be exposed, to share and connect with love.

That group led to another group that wasn’t only for those with eating disorders, but for anyone suffering who needed support….

….and that group led to more groups, discussion groups, meditation groups, study groups, book groups, practice groups, women’s groups.

The people you connect with for deep support can remind you of your true nature, your love, your awareness.

Now….I’m the instigator apparently of people coming together to create peace and healing when it comes to eating food.

Not just for the people here this weekend, but in the online program too. People connect who want to in our little facebook Eating Peace secret group. We share, ask questions, post thoughts.

I’m growing this bigger.

Other people helped me change my life, now I can pass it on.

My message to you today: go to a group meeting if you’re not doing so well all by yourself. Just find something near you.

There’s no shame in it, and there’s love and freedom out there for you.

Twelve step groups, support groups, therapy groups, recovery groups. These groups can bring you to awareness.

Just go, and listen.

Nothing else is required.

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” ~ Margaret Mead

That’s your world, with food, eating and the body we’re talking about.

You don’t have to do it all alone.

Much love,

Grace

February 6, 2015

The Tortoise and The Hare and The Work of Byron Katie

Everyone knows the tale of the tortoise and the hare.

The hare is insane fast, like 800 times faster than the ridiculously slow tortoise.

This is not even a real race, says the hare. That guy is soooo slow he’s a retard! I am so fast, I can stop and party, visit other countries, and go way off course and still WIN.

Right?

And we all know the end of the story.

Sometimes, the self-centered mind–the energy of “thinking” about me–can be like that hare.

This past week the Year of Inquiry (YOI) groups met together again. It was the first week of the new month.

When it’s the first week of the month, we begin a brand new topic in YOI (Month 6 is Love Relationships)….

….I walk everyone through finding a specific situation to bring to inquiry, and to write out a Judge Your Neighbor worksheet very slowly, like a guided meditation.

I love filling out a Judge Your Neighbor worksheet like this, during the call.

It feels so gentle, thorough, and kind. We look carefully, really giving each other quiet space–and the power of the group energy doing it together.

It’s weird, though, how HARD it can be to fill out a JYN all by yourself, in the middle of your busy life.

Even though you’re actually mulling over an incident, or a troubling moment with someone, or an exchange that bothered you….

….and even though you know there’s this thing called The Work where you can step into a deep inquiry and contemplate WHY something’s bugging you….

….you ignore it, or let it float there above your head calling for attention, or perhaps you think of it in the middle of the night and wake up, now that you slowed down for five minutes.

Well, at least that’s what it’s like for me sometimes STILL.

I don’t even want to talk about what it was like for me when I first started doing The Work.

I wanted the fast version all the time.

Can’t I just turn concepts around in my head while driving my car?

Have you noticed how well that works?

Sometimes it might offer something really curious and interesting, but not exactly life-altering realization.

Unfortunately, no.

The only way I’ve found deep inner awareness through doing The Work is to begin with writing out that JYN.

Judge the HELL out of that person.

It’s kind of refreshing actually.

You get to let your little brat, or your scared controller, or your mousy victim out and let that voice in you speak for once and be taken somewhat seriously.

Why is that voice there? What does it really want? What’s it afraid of? What does it think should or shouldn’t be happening? What does it need in order to be happy?

Over time, the more I look directly, the more compassion and kindness I have towards myself.

So if you have a repetitive, troubling, nagging, irritating experience with someone in your life, and you’ve “tried” doing The Work….here’s what you could do:

Sit down quietly and write for thirty minutes or more, answering every question in the Judge Your Neighbor worksheet.

Then pick the ones that seem to have the most charge, or to sum it up the very best, or hit the nail on the head.

Re-write the JYN with only those fewer concepts on it, so it’s more manageable.

The start at the top.

Is it true?

Keep going. You may find freedom on the other side of The Work.

And what could be better than a free, open, wild, peaceful mind?

“First you’ll put your thoughts on paper…then one-by-one put each statement on the Judge Your Neighbor worksheet up against the four questions, and then turn around the statement you’re working on. Throughout this process, explore being open to possibilities beyond what you think you know. There’s nothing more exciting than discovering the don’t-know mind. It’s like diving. Keep asking the questions and wait.” ~ Byron Katie

Simple, but not always easy.

If you’ve been frustrated with your self-inquiry, or notice something repeating itself incessantly….

….slooooooowwwwwww down.

(Did you hear my voice getting very low like a digital recording turning into a crazy slow sound? Well, do that with your thinking).

Tortoise wins the race.

Every time.

Love, Grace

February 5, 2015

Do You Sometimes Want The Wrong Thing?

Can you make friends with your cravings?

Have you ever decided you’re NOT GONNA WANT something anymore…

…because it hurts to want it, even if you get it?

One of my favorite all-time topics of human life has been studying, playing with, investigating and exploring “wanting” and “desire”.

In my religious upbringing, it appeared desire for union with God was a good thing, but being to passionate was….

….not so much.

Longing for a boyfriend was considered kinda normal, but also kinda immature. Like, get over it and get on with more meaningful pursuits.

Dreaming of a great career of service, or working for world peace, was super admirable. But you better not let it go to your head or get too high-horse about it.

And of course, craving ice cream, candy, hot dogs, money, liquor, cigarettes, sex or any other feel-good-now thing was STUPID.

Never Do That!!

Heh heh.

Who would you be without the belief that “wanting” something is risky? That you need to be careful if you dream of something, or long for it, or crave it, or feel like reaching out and grabbing it?

When I was in my early 20s, I periodically had these insane binge-eating episodes that I later learned were called bulimia. What a weird thing to do.

I thought I was the sickest screwed up person, I was so ashamed.

I would try really hard NOT to want food….and to just avoid “wanting” altogether.

This battle between moving towards something with all cares to the wind, destructive, violent….

….and being totally and completely contained and tranquil….

….is a very old human story.

Jekyll and Hyde.

What if you just let the wanting exist? What if having desire is a part of being a human on the planet?

What if, instead of being against desire, you could be all for it.

Go, Desire, Go!

If you turned around the belief that desiring is dangerous, disappointing, destructive, leads to no good, and is stupid…

…what would that look like instead?

Desire is safe, satisfying, creative, leads to all good, and is smart.

I can actually see and feel this now with my eating disorder!!

I know it may sound shocking….but what if even off-kilter desire and wanting leads you somewhere you never dreamed of?

Someplace magical, awakened, holy, sacred?

Because that’s how I feel about my past twisted up desires, now.

They did what they needed to do.

What are your desires telling you (or shouting at you)? What do you really want, instead, if they’re hurting in some way?

“You can’t not be in grace. Everything about you is totally absolutely perfectly appropriate. All the things you think are wrong with you are absolutely right.” ~ Tony Parsons

Who would you be without the belief that your cravings are sick?

You might be less harsh on yourself.

If you’re less harsh on yourself, you might in curious, even fascinated with your cravings. You might notice your cravings are part of reality.

You might notice you’re free.

“You are the teacher you’ve been waiting for.” ~ Byron Katie

Love, Grace

February 4, 2015

Eating Peace: Go Limp

Most people when they think about trying to stop overeating, or obsessing about food, or trying to be perfect when it comes to eating….

…are told that your solutions for this dilemma are to change your diet, study nutrition, or get into personal training.

Not that there’s anything wrong with these. They can make a HUGE difference, and sometimes completely change peoples’ lives.

But in my deep recovery….

….and what I mean by recovery is NEVER thinking about what I ate my last meal or what I “should” eat later, not making foods “good” or “bad” with moral values attached, and never ever weighing myself or caring….

….I found that real peace comes from slowing down, questioning your stressful beliefs, and being with yourself with the greatest unconditional love.

As I’ve mentioned before (I know, like 1000 times) if you’re wondering where to begin, the best place is to write.

Here’s the next video about what else you might write in this journal, to understand yourself better, and your own mind and feelings.

And my favorite fun message to contemplate when it comes to food and eating:

Go Limp!

Relax yourself, your mind, and all you’re thinking and believing.

Put down the books, scales, measuring devices and planners.

See what happens (it’s really good).

We’ll be starting the next 3 month online program on February 22nd to learn all the inner factors at play around eating issues of any kind, whether you just want to lose some weight, stop nighttime overeating, or quit having bulimic episodes (I did them all).

For more about this contemplative and full program, visit Eating Peace Online.

Much love,

Grace