At war with a technological breakdown – The Work of Byron Katie with Grace

frustration — This isn’t good! This is terrible! This shouldn’t be going like this! How would you like to question these thoughts?

So yesterday morning I scheduled a live free Master Class on how to start doing The Work of Byron Katie on compulsion around food and eating.

I thought I was doing something easy to have people sign up so they could get the link to the webinar page with a slideshow and then click that link at the appointed start time.

But.

One person said she never got the link so she could connect (it should have showed up in an email your Inbox).

Then.

I wrote January 8th for the date it was being offered. Yesterday was January 10th.

Yah, it appears I am one of Those Dingbats who writes the wrong date. This has increased in the past 3 years. Seriously.

There’s more.

At the beginning of the class, several people sent messages saying they couldn’t see any slides. Since I’ve never participated rather than leading the class, you’d think I would test all these things out or learn why sometimes this happens.

Other people could see everything.

I am not a tech expert kinda girl, although I love cruisin’ around the internet and learning and dabbling in all kinds of stuff (you may have noticed).

But I have no idea why some people couldn’t see the slide show.

My beautiful slides. Arrrrgggggg.

You may have had technical difficulties on something in your life, too. Like a computer breaking down. Losing everything on your hard drive. Falling on and off a video call with someone. The internet dropping. Your phone running out of battery in the middle of a good conversation (also happened recently for me).

I love considering, just like we did in the Master Class yesterday, WHY I want it to work smoothly?

I mean…..so what, the slide show doesn’t appear for some.

Why is this bad, in my opinion?

I don’t want to disappoint. I want to help. I want people to come to my retreat in two weeks, if it’s right for them.

I want to help people end this suffering, and learn more than ever about the human condition and therefor myself, and how we heal and grow and discover the miraculous presence of peace and the way humans tend to get very lost in their painful stories.

I like finding freedom from mine.

So let’s look at this idea that something technically should be going like “x” and it’s not.

If it doesn’t go well (I see the imagined version of what going well looks like) then it will be a failure. People won’t get support. They’ll think I’m a ditz (note the date problem, after all).

To really get to the heart of the trouble….I can sit and consider more deeply why something I think went wrong could be called WRONG.

it rained on my wedding day
someone broke up with me
someone broke into my car
no one showed up (this could be anything you’re putting on)
I lost money
he didn’t understand me

Let’s question our beliefs!

My stressful thought: they should see the slides (it should go well)!

Is that true?

Am I sure it’s required they see my slides in order to understand what I mean? Am I sure you need to get what I’m talking about?

Does it really mean something’s gone badly, if the way it goes was not what I wanted, or preferred?

No.

I have no idea.

I know how I react when I believe the thought something should go as planned. Something should be seen. Something should be heard. Technology shouldn’t “fail”.

Stomach upset. Frustrated.

Do you notice what you’re like when you need the internet to work, and it doesn’t?

I know…..it may not be pretty.

But who would you be without this belief? Without the thought that it really does need to go the way you think it should?

Without the belief it needs to be sunny, heard, seen, understood?

It’s pretty hilarious how serious we get when we think it’s a disaster for the thing to “fail”…..

…..and pretty amazing to notice what it’s like to not know this is “failing”.

What if you didn’t miss anything?

What if it was just right? The right dose, in the right amount, at the right time?

How would you feel without the thought running through your mind At All that it should be different than it was?

WOW!!!!

I am so excited without the thought!

Turning the thought around: they shouldn’t see the slides.

Why not?

Well, I have learned tons of things in my life without seeing it visually with slides or pictures. It’s not the only way to take in what’s interesting.

And what do I know? Those who didn’t see the slides might then search for more information, they may continue in their investigation of their own peaceful life, they might go somewhere else more perfect for them.

Everything sifting and unfolding just right, without me running the show.

I turn it around again: I should see the slides (not them).

Duh.

Yes, this work is really mine. All mine. This is my own healing. I’m learning how to support others, and connect with all the universe. I love the joy I feel when my story inspires someone else’s healing, if it ever does.

The way it went was just right. It went brilliantly. I

t was fabulous, the best, the way of it!

Well….OK. You don’t have to go THAT far.

But you’ve survived, right? It’s OK right now, right?

Can you find your own examples of how that’s true for you?

“When you realize that in actuality this moment has no opposite, you stop trying to escape it. Since this moment has no opposite, it is not opposed by any other moment. It has no opposition, no enemy. It is a true original, unique in all of time and space, free to be itself, never at war.” ~ Jeff Foster in Falling In Love With Where You Are

Much love, Grace

P.S. If you missed the Eating Peace Master Class this morning: How to do The Work on eating issues…..I’ll be sending out the replay tomorrow. Meanwhile, if you have question on the upcoming 3 day immersion retreat in Seattle, there are still some spots left. Write grace@workwithgrace.com to ask and questions.