“This is your fault!”I’m sure you’ve had the experience of saying this to yourself.
Something happens. It’s bad.
Your mind races.
Maybe even after the situation is resolved, when you think about it from time to time, you feel upset with yourself all over again.
A few weeks ago, I received a notice for a past retirement account, with a very small balance, saved from one job I had long ago.
As I looked at the statement, I thought about how it was my fault that I don’t have a normal retirement plan like other people. All those jobs I’ve had long ago, in my twenties and thirties, where I was presented with the options for savings.
And didn’t take them, or put in the minimum required.
So now, it’s my own damn fault I don’t have any savings.
Ugh.
How do you react when you think you made a mistake, it’s your responsibility you’re in the predicament you’re in?How does it feel in your body when you think it’s your fault…and it’s a bad thing?
Heavy, depressing, low, thick, nauseated, jittery, aching, sleepy, crushing.
There you are, sitting in a chair, or walking along, or going about your day, and you think of that stupid thing you did or what you said.
You could prevent it next time, surely. Maybe you could “pay” for it or work your ass off and feel better.
This is not a friendly belief.
It produces tons of stress. Therefore, it is also not a true thought.
Beliefs that are true to the deepest space within…beyond the Small You…feel peaceful, calm, simple, open.
I love sitting with who I would be, in these moments where I decided I was wrong and worthy of blame, without the belief that it was my fault?
“Can you be lovable NOT meeting the standards? Can you stop trying to change into who you wish you were long enough to find
out who you really are? You will never improve yourself enough to meet your standards.” ~ Cheri Huber
out who you really are? You will never improve yourself enough to meet your standards.” ~ Cheri Huber
Wow!
If I turn the painful belief around and look at this concept “there is no fault” what would that be like?
Wait…what?
But what about the pain, the difficulties of the world, the people who are hurting, the mental illness, addiction, cancer, disease, psychopaths, murderers, violence!?!
There has to be a reason for these, it has to be someone’s fault!!
If we don’t find out whose fault it is then terrible things will happen over and over again. I have to find out the root of the badness and pull it out!What if it’s not possible? Who would you be?
Empty. Silent. Open. Vast. Expansive. Wondering. Free. More relaxed, not tight.
Not against anything. Not sure. Not knowing. Mind without a job.
Mind at rest.
“The reward for not protecting your psyche is liberation…When you see your heart start getting anxious, you are obviously aware of this experience. But who is aware? it is the consciousness, the indwelling being, the Soul, the Self.” ~ Michael Singer
Love, Grace
P.S. If you have the thought that it’s your fault when it comes to money…there will be a new eight week teleclass starting in January, where you can seriously question this belief. Tuesdays 5:15-6:45 pm, click HERE for more information.