Oh so wonderful to be with Summer Campers for The Mind yesterday morning. Everyone called in from all around the world and we took a thought to inquiry that’s very common…at least it sure has been for me.
That person, place, thing, idea, feeling, or thought….SHOULD CALM DOWN.
People on the call had the most interesting things they were choosing to look at, the things they believed should calm down.
My six-year old screaming kid, my mother when she’s locked her keys in her car, my Task Master Self that needs a clean house, my Thinking Mind, my ego, my neighbors, the rain storm, my dog, my co-worker, my boss, my suffering.
These things really should be calmer. I would be calmer if they were calmer. It’s embarrassing, depressing, discouraging, aggravating.
I don’t know what to do.
How do you feel physically when you believe something or someone should calm down…and they are really wild and riled up or busy?
It’s agonizing. My whole body is tense, clutching, terrified, or worn out. I feel like a victim of this un-calm thing I’m looking at.
Who would you be without the belief that calmness out there is required for your happiness, for your internal calm?
Woah. You mean that thing, including my mind, doesn’t have to calm down in order for me to be happy?
Yes.
It should not calm down (until it does, if it does, when it does). I should calm down. I should sink down below the flurry, the kicked up sludge on the bottom of the clear lake. I should sink into the sweet earth and find how rooted I am there.
Things are wild, then calm, then wild, then calm.
Who would you be without the belief that they really need to stay one way or the other for you to be happy?
Trusting. Giving up. Not Knowing.
“There’s never been a leaf anywhere that knows why the wind blows that way on that day at that moment. That breeze changes the orientation of your life, moment to moment to moment, simply because that’s the way life’s moving. And when you’re living in your awakened self you have no argument with the way it’s moving because it is the same as you are.” ~ Adyashanti
So the thing isn’t calm at the moment. Can I sit and have no argument with that?
Yes. Ahhhh.
Love, Grace