In our last Eating Peace class yesterday morning, we were looking at underlying beliefs….
…not just about eating, food, bodies, weight…
…but underlying beliefs about LIFE.
As people read their work, their painful concepts they held sometimes about life and living, their lists were deep, sad, terrifying, upsetting and dark.
But no one was alone in thinking them.
“There are no new thoughts.” ~ Byron Katie
One thought that several people identified was “I am a failure at life”.
This thought appears very softly, in a little whisper….or very loud, in a scream. Either way, it’s wonderful to question.
Is it true that you are a failure at life?
Even in that ONE area…you know the one. That moment that wasn’t up to par, that exchange that you screwed up, that result that didn’t happen, the outcome that wasn’t optimal, that mess you made in the past.
Was that a failure?
Yes. I know what success looks like. Not that.
Are you positive? Was it a 100% failure? By YOU? Your fault?
No.
How do you react when you believe the thought?
Tired, sad, annoyed at the other person (or people) involved, angry, seeing the faults in many, desperate for change, hopeless.
Who would you be without that belief?
If you just landed here from another planet—BOOM—you’re a person named (insert your name here). Go.
If you were a flower growing in a garden.
If you were a tree in a forest.
What would it be like, without that thought that you are a failure at living? What would it feel like? What can you imagine? How would you walk down the street? How might you eat dinner?
“When your image of the me takes a break, you’ll find all you are doing at that moment is just being open. You feel quite relieved that you are not trying to get to another moment or a better experience. You feel yourself just being in a very relaxed, easy sense of peace. You haven’t gained anything at all–you’re not smarter, you don’t necessarily know more than anyone else, and you haven’t suddenly become holy.” ~ Adyashanti
Turn the thought around: I am a success at living.
Could this be as true, or truer?
Are you alive? Breathing, heart beating, observing this world from your area.
Is just being you enough? What if it was?
I chuckle at the other turnarounds: My thinking is a failure at living…it’s not actually supposed to be successful at living. It comes and goes in whisps and fits, highs and lows, appearing, disappearing. Thoughts live and die.
Another turnaround: I am a failure at dying. So far, this is true. I apparently inhabit a human body. That is still alive. And even after the body is dead, it will turn into earth or ashes and carry on in other formats.
Perhaps, there is no success, or failure. Wow.
“You may realize that most of your life you made the present moment into an enemy. You didn’t say “yes” to it, didn’t embrace it. You were out of alignment with the now, and so life became a struggle. It seemed so normal, because everyone around you lived in the same way. The amazing thing is: Life, the great intelligence that pervades the entire cosmos, becomes supportive when you say “yes” to it. Where is life? Here. Now.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
How would you go about your usual day today, without the belief that you are failing, once failed in the past, or could ever truly fail again?
In a few hours, if you’d like to join a 90 minute free telecall to do The Work together, you’ll get the opportunity to investigate a painful situation in your life, and question an underlying belief about it.
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Let’s do The Work. A tiny shift in thinking, today, could change your life.
Much love, Grace