Next week two teleclasses begin: One on Money and many threads that relate to Money and the opposing or uncomfortable beliefs we have about it.
The other on Sexuality and all those thoughts that are most nerve-wracking or frightening or frustrating about THAT topic.
If you’re interested in either one click over to the teleclasses page. You can click on any teleclass page to read all about it.
Both Money and Sexuality are considered very sensitive issues. As in, so sensitive, you may not want to discuss them. Or hear other people discuss them.
It’s like there are certain codes socially that we may find ourselves automatically following, without even questioning whether they are true:
- never say how much money you make to anyone, especially close friends or family
- don’t talk about your attractions to other people, it causes trouble
- don’t ask questions about sexuality, or express concerns—you’ll be embarrassed
- if you’ve ever owed a lot of money, make sure to keep a lid on that information (people will judge you as a loser)
- if you’ve ever had a difficult or violent sexual encounter, don’t tell anyone
- if you’ve been in a troubling financial or sexual situation, there might be something wrong with you
- don’t do business with friends or family, people get upset and it could ruin the relationship for life
- if you make a lot of money or enjoy a lot of physical pleasure, people will get jealous, criticize you, feel envious, or think you are undeserving….so keep that under wraps
- don’t talk about the details of your sexual encounters! Ewww!
I notice that people feel pretty nervous sometimes when we all gather together to identify our most troubling beliefs about Money, Work and Business OR Sexuality.
There are so many assumptions to move through, just to even be able to say your beliefs about these topics out loud! Yikes!
But as someone said recently….it’s so worth it.
Step Number One of The Work is seeing what you’re believing under the surface. These are the thoughts that you think, based on your past experience, that color how you look at your relationship with money, at how you feel about sexual feelings, attractive people, desire, or acquiring things with money, selling things, receiving money, earning money.
Step One is identifying your most upsetting beliefs. Good news: it’s not very difficult to find them.
They are there, often right in front of us in our heads (and felt in our bodies) when we have a stressful experience around one of these topics.
Something happens, and we feel worried, frustrated, anxious.
Our minds start running. These stressful thoughts are the petty, childish, embarrassing, judgmental, bitter, critical, mean, defensive, angry thoughts that are all there anyway, hanging back in the shadows.
They come out when we think we’re in danger, or threatened, or afraid that some past experience will repeat itself.
One of my most favorite discoveries in my life has been the numerous times I’ve found that telling the whole truth, asking all my questions, exposing my inner thoughts….has led to enormous freedom.
Who would you be without the thought that you shouldn’t talk about money or sex, for the danger of other people judging you, or other people behaving with uncertainty, or other people being upset, or feeling rejected?
Who would you be without the thought that you need to be quiet on these topics?
I found that when I didn’t force myself to keep thoughts about money or sexuality hidden, when I wasn’t frightened of my own thinking…..then I could use the thoughts, the issues, the beliefs I have had about these topics to become enlightened.
These areas of life offered amazing areas of investigation, for me to find out what was really true for me, to feel the peace and unconditional love available to anyone.
Who would you be without the thought that you have to hide, avoid, push away, or destroy your thinking or memories around these subjects?
You may find it’s safe to talk about them and investigate them, and a weight that has been on your mind (or physically on your body) becomes much lighter.
You may find that in your investigation and in your safety that other areas of your life, that have nothing to do with money or sexuality, become more clear, loving, and easy.
“There’s no intimacy when we’re in fear and there’s no love when we’re in fear…..it’s there, it’s just that our awareness of it is broken. So we experience this separateness. So what I invite people to do is to identify when they’re stressed out and look at their relationship, you know love and sex and what we’re all talking about here in this particular time together. We look at what we’re believing about our partner, and that either turns us off or it turns us on, physically.” ~ Byron Katie
Finding out what you’re thinking about money or sexuality, for me, has been finding out what I fear and what I love.
What turns me on, or turns me off…with working, loving, spending, giving, receiving, being, conversing, connecting…finding out what I am believing is an amazing journey!
Come join other inquirers in exploring your thoughts and beliefs, what you have learned, observed, repeated to yourself, worried about, feared…..and see what can happen.
You may be surprised.
Who would you be without your stories around money, attraction, promotion, receiving, giving?
Who would you be if you felt joy, happiness, simplicity, love, health and ease with money or with sexuality?
“Not-knowing is true knowledge. Presuming to know is a disease. First realize that you are sick; then you can move toward health. The Master is her own physician. She has healed herself of all knowing. Thus she is truly whole.” ~ Tao Te Ching #71
Money Teleclass: July 11-Aug 29, 5:15-6:45 pm PT, 8 weeks
Sexuality Teleclass: July 12-Aug 30, Noon-1:30 pm PT, 8 weeks
Freedom To Speak
“Thanks to all of you for such a wonderful teleclass and the freedom to speak about sex as if I was talking about a nose or arm, how cool that we have this time together…and thank you Grace for having the foresight to bring this topic to the open space of presence for us to question it.” ~ Tanya, teleclass participant
Marketing Became Easy
“Through Grace and her class, I confronted my issues with marketing my business with patience, ease and self-compassion. She helped me open up to all my fears and depression over this issue and move beyond that without pressure and impatience. I learned so much from this course. I highly recommend it. It helped me understand that real freedom is not a how-to-do-it job. It is through being with myself as I am that I can find all the love and enthusiasm I relish from life. Results came out of who I was being, not in doing it “right” or through effort.”- Ben, teleclass participant
Love, Grace