Two quick fun things about Thursday’s new sexuality class.
One is my no-secret secret. The other is that 2 of the members
are “alumni”…meaning, they’ve been in other classes of mine.
I love, love, love, love that…because we’re already friends,
and we just go deeper and deeper…together.
Friends who we can tell ANYTHING about ourselves…
the “worst” things about us (Question 3: fears, discomfort, shame)…
…and the best (Question 4) the natural comfort with our bodies, the
curiosity, the pleasure of touch, excitement, passion, attraction, and peace.
The no-secret secret is that sometimes people in my classes think
THEY are getting a lot out of the class and I’M doing the
facilitating as my “job.”
But it’s the most wonderful thing in the world for ME, too.
I do my own work with everyone, as they’re doing theirs. And
having a variety of people means we can find those places
in ourselves we might not have thought of before.
For me, it’s like being given minute-by-minute gifts…for hours
every day…of more and more freedom and peace.
Like Byron Katie says: “Just when you think
your life can’t get any better…it DOES.”
So I’m grateful for all the people in my classes (I’m also flattered
my returning “alumni” want to do more with me!)
Here are more topics that come up, besides the ones from yesterday’s e-mail:
- needing, pleasing, wanting…desperately and endlessly (then hating yourself for being a “doormat”)
- thinking sex will “fill” you…though it never truly does
- giving and giving without receiving what you need
- wondering if there shouldn’t be something more to sex
- feeling embarrassed about your body: too fat, skinny, weird shape (of embarrassing parts), clumsiness, smells, secretions
- trying to get (well-deserved) approval but not believing it when you do
- can’t stop thinking about your body image so it’s interfering with sex and actually “being there” with your partner (this was a BIG one for me, I preferred sex in the dark before inquiry)
Groups are great, because you get to hear that everybody’s got
the same crazy jumble and tumble of thoughts that you do…
…and the relief when you reveal something horrible and no
one even thinks it’s a big deal-except YOU!
It’s so amazing when the BIG terrors and deep-dark stuff
isn’t even a blip on someone else’s radar–IT’S JUST A THOUGHT!
Much love and fun and peace with your sexuality,
Grace