Thinking about the end of a relationship? You might want to question that.

Sometimes, the companions we meet along our journey in life are…..difficult.

To put it mildly.

Like, for example, the people we marry or move in with or spend lots and lots of time with in romantic formats or possibilities of romance.

Those same people leave us, anger us, hurt us, smite us, replace us, and grow us in ways perhaps we never imagined or dreamed.

It didn’t go the way we wanted it to go.

Perhaps it’s not going the way we wanted it to go right now.

It’s tough when a relationship goes south, or doesn’t seem to be the dreamy wonderful vision it was at first.

The other day, a close friend of mine asked to listen to the memorial service recording of my first husband Tom, from July 2018.

My friend asked about fast-forwarding the recording to where I come to the front and speak.

Fortunately, because another different friend had asked for the very same speech several months ago, I had the exact segment saved from the service where I spoke, quivering voice and all.

I found it again on my computer and sent it.

I couldn’t listen to it myself. Too emotional. Too hard to bring back the memories.

I didn’t want to hear my voice breaking constantly during the short space of time I was on “stage” sharing to an audience of hundreds.

My friend wrote back.

I suddenly had the thought to share this very personal speech with you that feels sacred and somewhat private.

Why?

Because this speech exists because of The Work of Byron Katie. 

This story could have gone very differently. In which case there would have been no speech at all. Perhaps just mourning and jaded despair.

In my relationship to the man who played the role of first husband, I might have remained myself in the role of victim. I might have been bitter. I might have been terrified. I might have been glum or depressed, or feeling like a failure or someone worthy of rejection and abandonment.

I might have remained angry and resentful.

But I learned, just before things went a little haywire in our relationship, how to identify and question my beliefs.

I still have mini fits and tell stories that sound sad, but I know they aren’t true. 

Yes, we got divorced. Yes, I felt abandoned. Yes, I thought I’d never love again. Yes, I thought I wouldn’t make it and was shattered into a million pieces.

None of that turned out to be true. And thankfully, I could SEE it wasn’t true because of questioning my beliefs, questioning what I was telling myself, questioning the thoughts connected to the emotions I felt.

I had the four questions.

Instead, I think of that relationship as one of the most profoundly important and life-transforming of my entire life.

You’ll hear why when you listen.

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If you are suffering because of a primary relationship going off the rails, or love not measuring up to what you anticipated or expected….

….if you are still “in” the relationship but contemplating a break in the structure and you have fears about what you’re imagining….

….join Nadine and I in our upcoming course starting Sundays January 12th (no meeting Jan. 19th). We meet online on zoom from 11:00am-12:30pm Pacific Time/ 7:00-8:30pm UK.

The only requirement for joining is wanting to end your suffering in relationship; whether in the distant past, in the present, or in the imagined future.

Join us if it’s right for you.

And guess what? Kind of funny (and we get it): We’ve been asked a handful of times for a registration link that doesn’t mention the title so certain partners won’t be hurt or confused if they see it on a credit card statement.

If you want to sign up for this course without having the words “divorce” or “break up” or “separation” or “hell” (LOL) anywhere in print then please feel free to use this simplified link to enroll right here.

This work is about addressing the fearful thinking and finding the peace within you that’s available right now, no matter what the status or condition of your relationship.

It’s about finding freedom and clarity, so you can be honest and real and share yourself lovingly with the other, with every “other”, and notice how peaceful and safe it can be whether you’re committed, married, single, divorced, separated, confused or complicated.