What if you don’t need to change one single drop of a thought?

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The other day I saw an article flit by on the internet on “limiting beliefs” and how we must change them in order to feel happy.

Everyone likes the idea of changing limiting beliefs.

They’re…..so…..limiting.

Yeah! I have to change my limiting beliefs!

Fist pump!!

We like “unlimited” beliefs because they’re more fun, expansive, full of endless possible scenarios. Unlimited sounds like forever and ever growing, no barriers, no stop signs.

Unlimited sounds successful and powerful and exciting!!

There’s no cap or lid on unlimited beliefs.

Right?

I suddenly had one of those little bells ring….

….*ping*….

….inviting me to look a little more deeply and explore around a bit, rather than just assume:

limiting beliefs = bad….unlimiting beliefs = good.

What exactly is meant by “limiting” beliefs (and why assume it’s a good idea to get rid of them, or change them)?

What is this word “limited” and what do we really mean when we’re saying there are beliefs that could be described this way?

Hmmm.

Well.

First, there are “beliefs”. I’ve come to see them as patterns or waves or sparks of thought that repeat themselves.

Poof, poof, poof.

They pop up like little fountains and rotate back and cycle around and get revisited over and over, appear and reappear.

Maybe we heard them many times from other people. We learned them, read them, received them somewhere.

The way I’m believing or thinking or perceiving, when it’s limited, brings me a sense of fear, or worry, or slight anxiety, or hesitation, or sadness or disappointment or depression or absence of any other options.

I look at life, when limited, and my feelings are “Oh No!” or “you screwed up” or “this was a mistake” or “uh-oh” or “RRUUUUNNNNN!”

We’ve all felt that moment when viewing our own situations or lives where we think happiness is simply not possible in that circumstance.

In that situation, there is definitely a problem.

There are limited options, limited ways to approach it.

There are LIMITS.

You know what I mean? I mean, seriously.

Here is the edge, and you can’t go past it. No other way around it.

You are limited by a lifetime, for example. You’re born, you grow, you die.

Being in a human body is limited.

Yes. It’s. True.

Except.

What if instead of thinking you have to change your limiting beliefs you didn’t know for a sec.

Are they “your” limiting beliefs?

Are you sure your mind is not working up to par, or the best way possible?

Are you sure you actually DO believe these thoughts in the first place, just because they reappear on a regular basis?

Are you sure these limiting beliefs are so important, or you have to stop thinking them, in order to be happy?

Are you sure this thing….called a limit….is really unfortunate?

(Like your lifespan, for example)?

Who would you be without the belief that you have to change your limiting beliefs in order to be happy?

I know I’ve just posed a LOT of questions.

But….is it kind of fun?

Wow, I find it kinda spacious.

Kind of hilarious, to be honest.

Less work, that’s for sure.

Noticing how interested I am in questioning, investigating, wondering about the world and about life.

I couldn’t stop being curious if I wanted to, it’s totally fun to look and stare at everything and take it in with astonishment and fascination.

I notice right here, in this moment, there’s probably a war happening in several places in the world. There’s famine, and suffering, and people hating themselves.

Right in this moment, there’s horrible weather, and injury, sickness, anger, addiction and death.

Even with all the history of humanity as it is, and the violence that occurs here, apparently, and my small pin-head glasses of one tiny brain on the planet looking through the eyes of one human…..

…..who would I actually be without the belief I’ve got to change these limiting beliefs, and that they are MINE?

If I turn around the thought…..curious:

I do NOT have to change my limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs have to change me (thanks, limiting beliefs….you rock!)

I have to change….nothing.

What if it was truly OK for my mind to run off in all directions with the idea that I must change my thinking, and my mind is limited?

Maybe my mind IS limited.

Maybe any belief that’s running through it, at any given moment, is temporary and personal and basically….limited.

That’s the way of it.

Mind/thought /body/this individual life…..limited.

Perhaps there’s more here than “thinking” and “believing”.

Who would you be without your thought you need to stop thinking limiting thoughts?

Turning the thoughts around:

*I need to keep on thinking limiting thoughts and NEVER change them. Ha ha!

*Thoughts need to change me (it’s happening, every time I question my beliefs).

*Nothing needs to change. Ever.

Gulp.

Wha?

But.

Woah.

I think things need to change all the time. That’s my constant motto. Changing things and waiting for things to change, and resisting change but hoping for change.

Sinking into Not Needing To Change Anything? (Including my beliefs)?

Now that’s a relief beyond relief.

Just……wow.

“All difficulties are created in the mind, by the mind. All problems are imagined in the mind. The great liberating factor of this is…that nothing is necessary to change in the activity of the world in the body or the mind. It might show you more clearly what your true nature is, but anxiety and fear are just a response to who we think ourselves to be.” ~ Ramana Marharshi 

What if what we think is a problem (our mental activity)….

….isn’t?

Much love, Grace