I am thrilled to say that a completely updated, exciting and light-bulb blasting 8 week money telecourse is fresh off the press. Over time with teaching the class so often, we’ve zoned in on some powerful ways to dig into the beliefs under the surface when it comes to money….
…the underlying ones you can’t always get to unless you take a little time out to look.
Money, and all it means, can bring massive tension. It doesn’t matter if you’re rich or poor, or somewhere in between.
The beliefs sit below as a foundation. Sometimes festering. Bringing about anxiety, suspicion, insecurity, concern, judgment about other people, worry about the future, wanting to avoid things from the past ever repeating again.
We’ll start soon, on Wednesdays. Most likely on April 16th at 5:15 pm Pacific Time. Hit reply if you’re interested and I’ll be sure to include you on updates.
Speaking of Underlying Beliefs (my favorite!)….
….this weekend a few inquirers will be doing some excavating in the realm of food and eating. (If you’re interested, we’re swimming in this topic on Saturday in person at Goldilocks Cottage in Seattle, my home).
Horrible Food, Wonderful Food. Too Much, Not Enough.
I used to call the workshop about food and eating, and my telecourse that covers the same material, “too much, not enough” because it seemed like I could never hit the “just right” mark.
Like there was this point, somewhere in the universe, where all would be well, comfortable, guilt-free, happy, and totally and completely contented when in came to feeding myself….
….but that point was never reached.
It was like being on a merry-go-round that was a mile wide, trying to reach the golden brass ring when the ponies came round to one side.
I would reach, reach, wait, get ready to grab that brass ring…but fail.
And then, because the merry-go-round was soooo big and enormous, it would take days to get back again to that one place where the circle meets brass ring and the dangling prize could be grabbed at.
But never actually owned, never done, never there.
Ack, what trouble.
That impossible psychizophrenic flip-flop around food was torturous. Highs and then lows. In control, out of control. Losing weight, gaining weight. Bingeing, starving. Gorging, refusing everything.
I just wanted some peace!
(Funny how food and money have some similarities….ahem. Wanting more, feeling undeserving, anorexic in our thinking, fat in our beliefs, desperate, starving, insecure…)
So I would muster up my plan and gather resources, like I was fighting a battle (I believed I was) and then other more important reasons to drop my plan would arise. And instead of looking at the power of those new beliefs….I would attack myself.
You can stop that cycle.
But it takes some Work.
“We go to the refrigerator even though we’ve just eaten, or we pick up the cigarette we said we’d never smoke again and on and on. It’s alcoholism. It’s a drug addiction, mind addiction. When I found this work, or it found me on the floor, that day later I picked up a cigarette to smoke it…and it looked insane, and I began to laugh and I couldn’t do it. What happened was, I was seeing. What happened was, I did The Work and smoking quit me.” ~ Byron Katie
Instead of trying so wildly hard to get it, find it, see it, believe differently, change…what if you gave up? What if you stopped altogether, and you metaphorically sat down, or lay down on the floor, and waited?
What if you identified exactly what you really were thinking, even if it’s embarrassing, immature, stupid or weird, and you allowed it to be there, wrote it down, and then questioned it.
You don’t have to drop any thoughts. You don’t have to give up your beliefs, if you don’t want to.
In fact, you probably can’t, even if you DID want to.
As the 12 steps go….step number one: I am powerless over my *thinking* and my life has become unmanageable.
It’s true! Have you ever tried to control your thinking?!
Just becoming aware that trouble with food or money has to do with troubled thinking will take you down a more efficient road. You don’t need that treatment plan, that diet, that budget.
But you do need to see how attached you are to your thoughts, and be patient enough to slow down and look.
You don’t have to take my teleclass on Money or Eating Peace to start. You can do this right now, today.
Write down all the painful things about life, the people in your world, what having too much or not having enough money or food mean for you….
….you’ll be on the road to freedom.
“Even those who have had deep spiritual experiences and awakenings beyond the mind will in most cases continue to cling to superstitious ideas and beliefs in an unconscious effort to grasp for the security of the known, the accepted, or the expected. It is this grasping for security in all its inward and outward forms which limits the perspective of enlightenment and maintains an inwardly divided condition which is the cause of all suffering and confusion.” ~ Adyashanti
Uh, yeah. What he said about inwardly divided!
I know that feeling! Stuck, twisted, groping, afraid.
Stop now, and stop trying to believe what you really don’t believe (yet) and stop trying to STOP believing what you really DO believe. It’s kinda bossy to yourself.
Plus it keeps that division thing going….endlessly and forever.
You can be whole again. Start right now.
Begin by writing down what you actually think, even if you’re not positive it’s even true, that hurts or feels frightening. Don’t try to find security in any of it.
Then, you’ve got thoughts right in front of you for inquiry. You know what to do from there.
The Work.
Much love, Grace