Tag: Byron Katie and Money

Just after the new year, I’ll begin offering time to do The Work on one of my favorite topics ever….

….Money.

Because it is rare that any of us, no matter what the quantity of money is in our lives, has NOT had a stressful thought about money.

We’ll embark on the latest newest version of an 8 week journey into investigating stressful thoughts when it comes to money. January 14-March 3, 2016 Thursdays 2-3:30 pm Pacific Time. $395 usual telesession fee, but for this class, you pick what you can pay.

Because, it’s about….money.

And deep inside, thoughts and beliefs about money are really about feeling safe, feeling supported, feeling like you’re not enough, feeling controlled, feeling guilty, feeling urgency, feeling scared, feeling worthy, feeling comfortable with surrender.

Register HERE. Let’s investigate money together and feel the joy possible when you question your stressful thinking, no matter how much money you have!

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Wanting anything, loving anything, thinking you need anything, can sometimes be very stressful.

Have you noticed?

If you think you want it, but you can’t have it….Uh oh.

Money, or a lover, fame, success, the big house you saw in that neighborhood, recognition, health….rest, peace.

The mind can take even a lovely, rather holy kind of idea…..

…..like achieving enlightenment…..

…..and make a project out of it, so it’s no longer joyful, genuine, or accessible.

You may believe what you want is good and sacred, or you may believe what you want is gross and wrong.

Either way, there can be deep stress in the wanting.

When something is desired that does NOT seem noble, or moral, or “good”….

….we often think we need to get rid of that desire.

Like, NOW.

Money often fits into this category, at least it did for me.

I wanted it, but at the same time I viewed it as a pain-in-the-ass, and like giving it away or not caring about it was more cool than keeping it.

I also looked at other people, the ones who wanted lots of money or made lots of money, and thought they were sometimes jerks.

Other desires I hate to admit are “bad” too.

If you are super attracted to Someone Else, and you are also married (the person to whom you are attracted is not your mate), Uh Oh.

If you are super attracted to fame and recognition and you secretly don’t care who you step on or step over as you climb the ladder up, Uh Oh.

If you are super attracted to money and you don’t stop to think about why but just push ahead for gaining more of it OR you dismiss your desire as BAD, Uh Oh.

All I know is, every time I tried to resist wanting something, without investigating all the interesting voices that wanted it, Uh Oh.

What I mean by Uh Oh is:

I’m in a dilemma, I’m torn between two things, I’m going to hurt someone or something no matter what I do, there’s no easy way, a battle must be fought, I have to strive, I have to force myself to stay on track or do the “right” thing, I am surrounded with unease or distrust.

What to do?

You know what I’m gonna say.

Do The Work!

But where should you begin?

Because there may be some very helpful ways to access what is really true for you, and feel more free.

First step….notice where you’ve felt irritated, or a slight hesitation, or worried about anything having to do with what you desire.

Let’s say you want more money (but you can do this with lovers, achievements, goals, what-you-wish-for).

Take a moment right now, take out a pen and paper, and consider Money.

When have you felt upset, even slightly, when it comes to hearing about money, being with money, going without money, focused on money in any way?

Immediately even right now, as I think about this, I see a few visions arise where my feeling was irritation, or anxiety, or confusion….

….and MONEY (that dastardly thing) was involved:

• a client who doesn’t pay their invoice on time, repeatedly

• a friend saying to me “everyone’s mindset towards money is pretty much the same from birth to death” (are you saying I’m trapped where I am? Eeek!)

• another acquaintance saying to me “you’re going to have to do some serious work on money internally if you want to become wealthy” (why did you just say that, do I look poor?)

• a very close friend sharing about her stock investments, but she still complains about needing to work hard (you have no idea how good you have it you whiner)

• a good friend commenting on how her husband makes $350K per year and that’s why she doesn’t work (I wish I had someone supporting ME with that kind of income, you lucky beoch)

• rage at my own tax bill, when I finally started to make a profit (the government is so greedy, selfish, and piggish)

• fear because my husband, the man I picked to marry, was from a family who took a vow of poverty (what was I thinking, I will never get any bling, or surprise vacations to Hawaii)

• hearing about people who are upset with spiritual teachers for charging so much money (only the privileged can get access to freedom I guess)